Xref: bloom-picayune.mit.edu alt.sex:103544 news.answers:5202 Newsgroups: alt.sex,news.answers Path: bloom-picayune.mit.edu!enterpoop.mit.edu!thunder.mcrcim.mcgill.edu!homer.cs.mcgill.ca!superdj From: superdj@cs.mcgill.ca (David JOHNSON) Subject: [alt.sex] FAQ (1/4) Message-ID: Followup-To: alt.sex Summary: frequently asked questions for alt.sex Originator: superdj@binkley.cs.mcgill.ca Keywords: Parts Intro to c3-3 Sender: news@cs.mcgill.ca (Netnews Administrator) Organization: SOCS - Mcgill University, Montreal, Canada Date: Tue, 12 Jan 1993 01:35:12 GMT Approved: news-answers-request@MIT.Edu Expires: Wed, 10 Feb 1993 00:00:00 GMT Lines: 1149 Archive-name: alt-sex/faq/part1 Last-modified: 1 Jan 1993 THE OFFICIAL ALT.SEX FAQ FILE WITH ANSWERS ------------------------------------------ (dated January 1, 1993) PURPOSE OF THE FAQ FILE Alt.sex receives significantly more traffic than your typical newsgroup. Readers of this group have more than enough to read through without having to filter out inappropriate posts. To help prevent the constant debating of these points, this post serves as a guide to the Frequently Asked Questions. If you are new to this group, please take the time to read through this file, even if only to read the Table of Contents. This does not mean these things are not subject to further debate, merely that they HAVE been considered by the readers here. If you have something significant to add to the subject, then feel free to post. Every effort has been made to keep attributions to authors in this FAQ file as accurate as possible when available. In many cases however, the name of the original poster has been lost through repeated transfers. I have corrected typos and other errors as I come across them but some slip through, nevertheless. Please send me comments, suggestions, corrections, and possible additions to: superdj@cs.mcgill.ca USING THE FAQ FILE In order to navigate more easily through this file there are: 1) separators "-------------------" after most question-answer sections; 2) separators "================..." after main categories; 3) unique question numbering (i.e., cX-Y is category X, question Y.) Use the search function on your editor (you do have an editor, right?) to jump to ends of sections by searching for "------" or "========", and to questions by searching for "cX-Y". If you're going through this with a newsreader such as rn use the goto function to navigate through this FAQ. (In rn use the g command.) The Table of Contents lists all questions covered in the FAQ. Thank you for your support. Editor of the FAQ file, -David Johnson superdj@cs.mcgill.ca [License is hereby granted to republish on electronic media for which no fees are charged (except for the media used), so long as the text of this copyright notice and license are attached intact to any and all republished portion or portions.] CHANGES (Jan 1) - added "Where can I find additional sex topics on USENET?" FORMER CHANGES (Dec 1) - added section on venereal warts. FORMER CHANGES (Nov 1) - added "Where can I find this FAQ?" - added "Where can I find sex-related mailing lists?" FORMER CHANGES (Oct 1) - reformatted to 75 characters per line. ================================================================= TABLE OF CONTENTS: Category 1. Alt.sex Terms and Acronyms Category 2. Where can I find...? c2-1 Where can I find this FAQ? c2-2 What versions of the purity test are there? c2-3 Where can I get the purity tests? c2-4 Where can I find alt.sex stories? are there archive sites for them? c2-5 Where can I find GIF pictures? c2-6 What are good books to read up on? c2-7 What stores sell sex-toys, etc.? c2-8 Where can I find the archives for alt.sex.bondage & alt.sex.stories? c2-9 Where can I find the Index to USENET Erotica? c2-10 Where can I order from via catalog? c2-11 Where can I find sex-related mailing lists? c2-12 Where can I find additional sex topics on USENET? Category 3. General stuff c3-1 What should I do to make (the first attempt at) vaginal sex easiest? c3-2 What should I do to make (the first attempt at) oral sex easiest? c3-3 What should I do to make (the first attempt at) anal sex easiest? c3-4 How does one give a hand job? c3-5 What is circumcision and why is it done? c3-6 What is the Venus butterfly? c3-7 What are the contents of semen? c3-8 How much semen and how many sperm are in a single ejaculate? c3-9 Does what I eat affect the taste of semen/vaginal fluids? c3-10 What is and where is the G-Spot? c3-11 How can females ejaculate? c3-12 What about oral/vaginal sex during a woman's period? c3-13 What percent of men and women masturbate? and at what frequency? c3-14 How are the bases defined again? (ie. 1st base = kissing, etc.) c3-15 What's the average length and width penis? c3-16 What can one do about premature ejaculation? c3-17 Is it possible for men to be multi-orgasmic? c3-18 What are Kegel exercises? How can one increase the force of ejaculation? c3-19 What are some good positions to try out? c3-20 What is the M-spot? c3-21 What are blue balls? c3-22 Is spanish fly dangerous? c3-23 Is it possible to get pregnant from anal sex? c3-24 Should I buy a vibrator? What kind of vibrators are there? Do vibrators 'desensitize' women? Can I be replaced by a vibrator? Category 4. STDs c4-1 How is the AIDS virus transmitted? and what does a HIV test show? c4-2 What is HPV (human papilloma virus)? Treatment? c4-3 The major sexually transmitted disease (STDs) and their symptoms (Gonorrhea, Syphilis, Genital Herpes, AIDS, Pubic Lice (Crabs), Nonspecific Urethritis (NSU), Hepatitis B are covered.) c4-4 What are venereal warts? Treatment? Category 5. Contraception c5-1 What are the various methods of contraception? and their effectiveness rates? and their associated risks if any? c5-2 What kinds of condoms are there? Category 6. Myths Appendix 1. List of contributors Appendix 2. The Teachings of Kama Sutra ================================================================= Category 1. ALT.SEX ACRONYMS AND TERMS :),:-) - smiley, indicates humor or sarcasm (many variations exist) 69 - mutual oral sex ASB - alt.sex.bondage B&D - bondage and discipline (consensual) BTW - by the way D&S - Dominance and Submission FAQ - frequently asked question IMHO - in my humble/honest opinion IMNSHO - in my not so humble opinion LJBF - let's just be friends MOTAS - member of the appropriate sex MOTOS - member of the opposite sex MOTSS - member of the same sex P&T - Power & Trust S&M,S/M - sadism and masochism, SexMagik (consensual) SO - significant other anilingus - similar to cunnilingus but with the anus bestiality - sex with animals blue balls - see question c3-21 clitoris - the most sensitive external female sex organ (for approximate location, see diagram in c3-10, second article) cunnilingus - oral sex involving the vulva dental dam - a piece of latex placed over the vulva during cunnilingus to protect both partners from STDs. fellatio - oral sex involving the penis fisting - inserting a whole HAND into either the vagina or the anus gerbiling - the activity of Urban Legend status regarding the insertion of a gerbil or similarly-sized rodent into the anus ObSex - Obligated Sexual Comment/Reference; inserted at the end of some posts which otherwise have very little to do with sex rimming - similar to anilingus but with the "rim" of the anus safeword - the code phrase or word used in any sort of B&D/S&M activity that really means "Stop NOW." water sports - sex involving urine or urination (also "scat", sex involving feces.) ================================================================= Category 2. WHERE CAN I FIND...? c2-1. Where can I find this FAQ? First of all, look for it in alt.sex and news.answers If you can't find it there, you can find the (hopefully) latest version via ftp at: pit-manager.mit.edu in /pub/usenet/alt-sex/faq If you need help in using or getting started with FTP, send e-mail to: mail-server@rtfm.mit.edu with send usenet/news.answers/ftp-list/faq in the body. --------------------------------------- c2-2. What versions of the purity test are there? The versions: 70 --- Ronnie Geller Immorality Quiz 75 --- "For those with really low scores on the other versions" 100MF--- Allegedly the original MIT version; one test for guys, one for gals 100a --- Rice Version 100b --- Unknown origin; obtained via CMU 100c --- From a Penthouse column Sept 1989 100d --- Ricket's House Purity Test 100e --- Unknown origin; obtained vi Uga 100f --- Dabney House Purity Test (Cal Tech) 100g --- Official Lloyd House Women's Purity Test (22-Aug-78) 100h --- The Ivory Snow (Job) Purity Test (almost the same as 100a) 132 --- For those who got over 80% on the other versions 200 --- Condensation of the 500; obtained via JHU 225 --- The Unisex Experience Test 247 --- First CMU version 350 --- For those with ***REALLY*** low scores on the other versions 400 --- Apparently, a differently formatted version of the 400a -- but, since it is not formatted as well, I'm guessing it came out first. 400a --- Second CMU version 400b --- Anti-Celibacy League Version 400c --- PSU version 425 --- Third CMU version 500 --- Yale/Dartmouth version 600 --- SUNY Potsdam/Clarkson version 800 --- Purities and Improprieties Test -- from somewhere in the DC area 1000 --- Origin uncertain; Colorado State? 1000a--- Pervert's Anonymous qualification form (Oregon State version) 1000b--- Same as 1000a, minor revisions, easier to print. 1500 --- You thought the 1000 was bad? You ain't seen nothing yet! BBS --- Modified 1000 designed for interactive taking on a BBS bi --- For bisexuals only. Doesn't give you a percentage like standard tests do. It is designed to (quote) "be taken by bisexuals to tickle their fancy" -------------------tests you need software for------------------- HyperCard HyperCard 1000 question test 500.tex --- Needs a (La)tex reader. Reader available via FTP from oak.oakland.edu in /pub/msdos/tex (at the time of making this file) 500.el --- An Emacs lisp program. You need an emac compiler.- -----------------Other purity test related files----------------- brain.damaged -- (are you?) compatibility -- compatibility test for partners decadence -- stolen straight from Cosmo, female oriented hacker.128 -- Computer Purity Test hacker.512a -- The hacker test -- written by Felix Lee, John Hayes, and Angela Thomas, and in the form of a datafile readably by the purity test program (written by Eric Lechner) hacker.512b -- Same as above -- more readable by us human beans jock.100 -- The Jock Test math -- Math Purity Test (Harvard) mundane.100 -- The Mundanity Test -- (as far as I know, credits go to polgara@bucsf.bu.edu) (Rutgers) mundane.200 -- (2.0 -- 12-01-1990) nerd.100a -- The nerd test nerd.100b -- The nerd test -- Squid version nerd.200 -- The nerd test (2.1 -- 3-12-1992) net -- Usenet Purity Test redneck -- application form to live in Festus, Missouri roadkill.232 -- The Unisex, Roadkill Purity Test tree -- Purity test family tree party -- How to have a purity test party --------------------------------------- c2-3. Where can I get the purity tests? Anonymous FTP sites: You may want to check out the ftp sites from the archie database at archie.mcgill.ca: ocf.berkeley.edu Location: /pub DIRECTORY drwxr-xr-x 1024 Feb 27 03:20 purity quartz.rutgers.edu Location: /pub DIRECTORY drwxr-xr-x 512 Jan 19 00:09 purity watserv1.waterloo.edu Location: /misc FILE -rw-r--r-- 50537 Mar 28 1989 purity deja-vu.aiss.uiuc.edu Location: /misc/fun DIRECTORY drwxr-xr-x 512 Mar 17 16:17 test If the archives do not have the version you are looking for or are not available to you, then you may ask the following people, who have volunteered their services in e-mailing out purity tests. Please do not abuse their kindness. The above list of purity tests is a composite, so not all distributors will necessarily have every test. Ask around. (If you wish to be included in this list, mail me.) When asking for purity tests, specify which versions. The tests will be provided in ASCII format unless otherwise noted. Purity test contacts: 1) blair@cs.columbia.edu (Blair Seidler) 2) smithd@PROFESSOR.ENG.TULANE.EDU (David Smith) (has test in both ASCII and MS Word formats) 3) carlb@inex.seanews.wa.com (Carl Boernecke) 4) hagman@crs.cl.msu.edu (Tim Hagman) --------------------------------------- c2-4. Where can I find alt.sex stories? are there archive sites for them? If you are just looking for stories in general, check the newsgroups alt.sex.stories and rec.arts.erotica FIRST. Many stories are also cross-posted to alt.sex. As for story archives, well, there used to be a few. Unfortunately, due to misuse by people, they are no longer around. In this section we used to mention a couple but they both shut down for the same reasons: irresponsible, immature, and greedy users over-used their services. When people misuse a service offered to them that service generally shuts down. Therefore, there are currently no known ftp sites for stories or rec.arts.erotica. If any site ever dares to try to set up a ftp story archive again people should definitely learn to respect the system that is offering the archive and respect the wishes of the archive's maintainers. There is a mail-server for alt.sex.bondage and alt.sex.stories right now (see section c2-8), but that service won't last long if it is misused. Don't try to get the whole archive in one night! If the newsgroups or archives do not have what you are looking for the following person has volunteered his services in e-mailing out alt.sex stories that you may be looking for. Do not abuse his services. Alt.sex stories contact: 1) rsr@soda.berkeley.edu (Roy S. Rapoport) If anyone else would like to offer their services whether to e- mail stories or to set up an archive, tell me. That way we can spread the load around a little. --------------------------------------- c2-5. Where can I find GIF pictures? The newsgroups of the alt.binaries.pictures.* (like a.b.p.erotica) are your best bet for X and R-rated GIFs. For pictures more along the line of swimsuit models, check out wuarchive.wustl.edu via anonymous FTP, in graphics/gif. The images are arranged alphabetically. Don't abuse the ftp service or it won't be here next month. Also in alt.binaries.pictures.erotica are often jpgs and movies. Read the alt.binaries.pictures.* FAQs for more info. There is also a list of BBS' containing adult GIF files. The list is posted to alt.bbs.lists and alt.sex periodically. There are several hundred BBS' listed. --------------------------------------- c2-6. What are good books to read up on? "Man's Body: an owner's manual" "Woman's Body: an owner's manual" "More Joy of Sex" Elf's (elf@halcyon.com) recommended reading list includes: "The New Our Bodies, Ourselves." The Boston Women's Health Book Collective, 1984. I don't care what sex you are, male or female, BUY AND READ THIS BOOK COVER TO COVER! If you feel it is necessary, ignore the feminist attitudes taken in the political sections of the book and rely on the technical details. Although it was written before the age of AIDS, NorPlant, and RU-486, it contains information on every other method of birth control, as well as articles on abortion, reproductive technology, and sexually transmitted diseases. An utterly invaluable book to women and people who love them. "The Joy of Sex," by Alex Comfort Although these two books have a few problems, they are excellent introductory material for people who wish to try a few new things. These books were written in the 1970's and it shows; homosexual and bisexual issues are under the "Problem" header, for instance. "Delicious Sex" by Gael Greene. Since I rarely buy "mainstream" sex manuals any more, this one may be just a typical example. But it does have fun and sexy examples. "Sex for One," by Betty Dodson. The best guide to masturbation ever written. "Bi Any Other Name" Is a useful book for people dealing with their own or a loved one's bisexuality. "Coming to Power" by SAMOIS Although primarily written for lesbians, "Coming to Power" is the most practical guide to SM I have ever had the pleasure of reading. First Aid, physical and emotional safety, personal testimonies, politics (sigh), and a few hot stories to boot! Also useful from the same source, "The Lesbian S/M Safety Manual," not for lesbians only. FICTION: "The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty," "Beauty's Punishment," "Beauty's Release." By Anne Rice, the author of "The Vampire Lestat" and "The Witching Hour," "The Erotic Adventures of Sleeping Beauty," is a wonderfully hot and sexy fantasy for anyone willing to spend a few sleepless hours. Excellent bathtime reading. "Exit to Eden," also by Anne Rice. Another sexy SM story, this one is set in modern-day New Orleans. --------------------------------------- c2-7. What stores sell sex-toys, etc. ? From: elf@halcyon.com (Elf Sternberg) There are several different places to buy sex toys. The most common is the typical "adult" bookstore, where dildoes, vibrators, and such can be bought. Typically, though, these places are ugly, dirty, and uncomfortable. The most common place for people to buy sextoys are lingerie stores, which usually have a shelf set up to sell vibrators, oils, body flavourings and paint. (Recommendations- whipped cream and strawberry jelly are better than anything you could buy in one of these places). If you want a _real_ quality vibrator, buy a "body massager" at a major department store, such as Service Merchandiser or Bests'. With wall current you've got all the vibration you could ever need and never worry about battery failure. Just remember to use lubricant! See c3-24 for more info on vibrators. --------------------------------------- c2-8. Where can I find the archives for alt.sex.bondage & alt.sex.stories? From: Richard Shetron multics%acm.rpi.edu@rpi.edu multics@hermes.acm.rpi.edu My email file server is now up and running. This is a heavily modified version of the decwrl package by Brian Reid. The easiest way to get started is to read the rest of this section and then send email to server@hermes.acm.rpi.edu with the word help as the first and only word on the subject line. I will stay about 1-2 weeks behind alt.sex.bondage and alt.sex.stories. These are the only two alt.sex groups that I read and am archiving. I am archiving both stories and articles that I believe to be of general interest to those reading these two groups. Anonymous ftp is not available to this machine and is NOT planned. If you have any questions or problems with the server, send email to server-admin@hermes.acm.rpi.edu. If you have trouble getting email to that address, try multics%acm.rpi.edu@rpi.edu. Anonymous contact via wizvax may be sent to either wi.5203 or wi.4717@wizvax.methuen.ma.us. DO NOT use server%hermes.acm.rpi.edu@rpi.edu for server requests. Requests sent to that address may end up in the bit bucket. Due to circumstances beyond my control, hardware and/or system crashes can normally take several days to resolve. If email to the server or the other contact addresses bounces, please wait at least one week before retrying. I will try to post service interruption reports to alt.sex.bondage and alt.sex.stories. I will also try to spread word on irc in #bondage. Privacy/system logs: The server logs all incoming requests and all responses. This information is retained for a few days before being deleted. I normally check the logs at least once a day to try and find any server bugs/problems as early as possible. I don't care who you are or where you are unless you are extremely greedy in accessing the server. Anonymous access: None currently, I am discussing this with wizvax. --------------------------------------- c2-9. Where can I find the Index to USENET Erotica? From: Ed Stauff (ed@stauff.uucp) The "Index of USENET Erotica", also known as the Official Alt.Sex.Story.Index, is maintained by Ed Stauff (ed@stauff.uucp) for his own amusement and as a service to the Net. It is an index to stories posted to rec.arts.erotica, alt.sex, and alt.sex.stories. It contains a fairly complete listing of "vanilla" net.erotica; it does not include much S&M/B&D, bestiality or gay material, due to Ed's own preferences. (This is not censorship; if you want to index such material, please do so.) Each listing includes the title (not a filename), author (if known), size, archive name from rec.arts.erotica (if it has one), and a brief synopsis/review. Now, listen closely: Ed is *NOT* an archive site! Requests for stories will be ignored! Got that? He's not keen on mailing out copies of the Index, either; his net access is limited and he can't handle dozens of request per week. He posts it at irregular intervals to alt.sex and alt.sex.stories; watch for it there. --------------------------------------- c2-10. Where can I order from via catalog? From: jik@pit-manager.MIT.EDU (Jonathan I. Kamens) Here's a list of mail-order companies. The comments in parentheses indicates what the company sells or other notes. Some of them might not accept catalog orders over the phone, but they probably all will by mail. Adam & Eve 1 Apple Court P.O. Box 800 Carrboro, NC 27510-0800 800-765-2326 (videos, toys, lingerie) Intimate Treasures P.O. Box 77902 San Francisco, CA 94107-0902 415-896-0944 (mostly other catalogs) Leisure Time Products P.O. Box 827 Gary, IN 46401-9900 800-874-8960 (videos, toys, lingerie) Mellow Mail P.O. Box 8000 San Rafael, CA 94912-8000 415-456-1800 (mostly lingerie) National 96 P.O. Box 35445 Los Angeles, CA 90035 (videos) Night Classics P.O. Box 3916 Milford, CT 06460 203-878-8704 (video, toys, lingerie) Ultra Video P.O. Box 3812 Milford, CT 06460 203-876-9862 Video Bonanza P.O. Box 35650 Los Angeles, CA 90035 (mostly videos, a small amount of toys, lingerie, etc.) (probably the same company as "National 96") VideoMail P.O. Box 1550 Madison Square Station New York, NY 10159 800-334-5474 Volume Video P.O. Box 35268 Los Angeles, CA 90035 (probably the same company as "Volume Video") --------------------------------------- c2-11. Where can I find sex-related mailing lists? You can't. There have been countless rumours about sex lists, but there are none. So please don't ask me if you can get onto my mailing list. I don't have a sex-related mailing list. --------------------------------------- c2-12. Where can I find additional sex topics on USENET? If you're looking for additional topics on sexual wizardry, look in the alt.sex.wizards FAQ. Currently, "How does one give the Yoni massage?" and "How does one make a simulacrum (artificial orifice)?" are exclusive to alt.sex.wizards. If you're looking for additional information on bondage/ dominance or sadism/masochism or many other such interesting topics, look in the alt.sex.bondage FAQ. ================================================================= Category 3. GENERAL STUFF c3-1. What should I do to make (the first attempt at) vaginal sex easiest? FOR THE VIRGIN FEMALE: 1) Do it in a place where she feels safe, ideally in her own bedroom. 2) Do it at a secure time, when roommates won't come barging in, a firedrill is unlikely, etc. 3) Simulate it in advance: a. Go almost all the way. b. Practice the thrusting motions of sex while fully clothed. c. Have her give you a "hand job" so that she will know what your body does when you have an orgasm. d. Have a bright lights "show and tell" session, to allow you to feel secure around each other's naked bodies. 4) Plan it, but don't talk about it being planned, on the actual day that you do it. 5) Stretch the vagina out a lot with the fingers in advance. If she feels comfortable with the idea, she can even do this herself when you're not around. 6) Remember that it is her day--everything, within reason, should be done how she wants. 7) Spend the day with her beforehand; do something fun but generic-- if you do something complicated, it will become "your" thing to do together forever, due to the association, so make sure it's something you can stand doing again on any potential anniversaries. 8) Have a special dinner before you "start." a. Nothing that can possibly upset the stomach. b. A moderate amount, even if you're nervous. You should both stay a little hungry and not feel bloated. 9) Use plenty of lubricant. I recommend k-y jelly for the first few times; after that you may want to consider a slightly less slippery but spermicidal lubricant, several brands are available commercially. 10) Entry should be "missionary" style, this leaves the vagina as wide open as possible. Some women find that placing a pillow under the buttocks enhances this effect, others have said it doesn't matter. 11) If she can do it, she may be best off to do the actual entry herself, but many women would rather not. 12) There's no point in getting it over with right away, since it will only hurt the next time, but there is also no need to draw it out. I'd say 10-30 minutes is a good range, but it is actually going to vary a lot depending on the particular couple involved. 13) Take forever, if necessary, before putting it in. Only when the woman is really ready should this be done. I'd recommend asking verbally, and then interpreting that to see if she really means it's time. 14) Stay with her afterwards. Spend the night, at least. If possible, take her to do something spontaneous the next day. Discuss what happened if she wants to, many women won't want to until some later time. 15) Encourage her to talk to other women ahead of time to give her some idea of what to expect. The unknown means fear, fear leads to tension, tension leads to difficulty relaxing, and difficulty relaxing leads to pain. 16) A useful technique, for guys who can do this, is to keep the erection soft, at a sort of middling state, and then push the penis in with a finger. Then slowly let it harden. This will produce a stretching rather than a sudden opening of the vagina. If you can't do this, then at least go in slowly and gently, "getting it over with fast" is not likely to be better. 17) Be more or less "in love." This is something you can't just decide to do, but it can help to wait until you love each other. FOR THE VIRGIN MALE: (from: Carole Ashmore) OK. This is on the assumption that he's told you it's going to be his first (some men tell you *afterward*) and that the two of you are not first-timers fumbling together. In the both-first-timers case I recommend strong egos, mutual respect and affection, and a great sense of humor. Also theoretical knowledge *helps*. Read the fucking manual. (Sorry I just couldn't resist the play on words.) I recommend anything by Alex Comfort; THE JOY OF SEX and THE FACTS OF LOVE are very good. But on the assumption that he is a virgin and you are experienced: 1. There is a socially prevalent notion that men make love and women are made love to, so an experienced woman with an inexperienced man is going to be gritting her teeth enduring his fumbling ineptitude. *Actively counter this notion.* Tell him the thought of his being a virgin makes it a special and especially delightful encounter for you. Tell him the thought of initiating him into the joys of love-making is *very sexy for you*. Strongly convey the notion that you expect to have a great sexual experience based on his attractiveness, his enjoyment, and *your* skill. Make him believe that he has no responsibility for 'making this work' and can just enjoy it. 2. Take the initiative physically. You kiss him, don't wait for him to kiss you. You start undressing him. You make the move in the direction of the bedroom. ETC. On the other hand, don't insist on the initiative if he takes it eagerly -- be appreciative, encourage it, but don't go limp and assume he'll take it from here. 3. Tell him you find at least one thing about his body particularly attractive. Stay away from "You have beautiful eyes.", but almost anything else will do: Tell him you love men with hairy chests, or tell him he has a great ass, or tell him men with strong hands particularly turn you on, or tell him you love the way he smells, or tell him running your fingers through his hair is *so* sensual, or... something *specific*, not just, "You've got a great body." or "You're so sexy." After you tell him this, *show* him -- run your fingers through his hair, enjoy grabbing the sexy ass, etc. as appropriate. 4. Tell him you find at least one thing he does particularly attractive -- again, it is the *specific* thing that is believed and appreciated. "I love the way you kiss." or "Yes, touch me exactly like that." beats the hell out of "You're a great lover." 5. He's going to be convinced he was either too fast or too slow -- the chances of simultaneous orgasm after whatever the culture has led him to believe is the 'proper' amount of time are just about nil. So be prepared ahead of time to convince him that this: A. isn't a problem B. happens to just about everybody. For 'too fast' tell him the first time just takes the edge off and he (not you) will have more time to enjoy the next session of lovemaking -- and meanwhile he has this wonderful opportunity (of *unspecified* length) to learn what pleases you while he's not so distracted. Assure him that you consider 'not being too distracted while learning' an *advantage* in lovemaking. For 'too slow' tell him you *enjoy* prolonged lovemaking -- either it gives you a chance for more than one orgasm or it gives you a chance to enjoy the wonderful sensuality of post-orgasmic sex. If it's obvious that it's too slow for him, that he's not going to make it if he keeps at it for the next two hours, let him know that he gave *you* a wonderful time and that everybody's nervous the first time, he'll be more relaxed and ready to enjoy it in the morning. 6. Tell him you want to sleep with him again; don't assume he knows it -- don't make him ask, you ask. --------------------------------------- c3-2. What should I do to make (the first attempt at) oral sex easiest? (See questions c3-4 and c3-10 for the related topics, hand jobs and the G-spot) From: hurd@fraser.sfu.ca (Peter L. Hurd) Message-ID: Date: Sat, 7 Mar 1992 05:46:19 GMT So I asked the expert, she said: 1) really like the penis that you're sucking 2) don't let any air in through the back of the throat, big vacuum. 3) Horizontal strumming with the tongue across the base of the head on the underside to get limp penises up 4) Use the top of the tongue to make friction on the head, pressing it up against the roof of the mouth. I'd add: watch the teeth & I know this isn't anything new or exciting, it's really difficult to describe how to perform oral sex on a man, just as it is very difficult to describe to someone how to tie shoelaces or bowties. But for the good of the species, I think it's worth a try. From: sesharp@happy.colorado.edu The best way to learn is to experiment and learn from feedback. Different people like different things. There are some general comments that might be worth making. At the least it will get someone to contradict me and start a useful discussion. FOR HIM: Deep-throating apparently requires handling the gag reflex by swallowing when it happens. In my opinion, it isn't that important. Complete enclosure isn't the strong point of oral stimulation. If that is important to you, try something else. She may be able to help by using her hands on the part of the shaft she can't enclose. The advantage of oral stimulation is the control and variety it provides, which are only available with shallower penetration anyway. From others.somewhere.edu: I find that it helps if you are hungry when you do it. Never attempt going down on a guy if you've eaten a big meal recently. Make sure that you're not thirsty when you start. For some reason thirst closes up the back of your throat. Also, concentrate on breathing through your nose deeply while doing it. (This is the only way I can hold off chocking on my toothbrush every morning.) According to Linda Lovelace of "Deep Throat" fame, the most comfortable way to give a blow job is if your throat is straight. In order to achieve this, try laying on his chest. She also suggests that you practice by sticking your fingers down your throat and wiggling them around til you feel the gag reflex and then ease off. Repeat until you've defeated the reflex, it'll take time she says. From sesharp@happy.colorado.edu: FOR HER: First of all, recognize that women prefer gentler and more rhythmic stimulation than men. An advantage of using the tongue instead of the fingers is that it naturally produces about the right amount of pressure. Stimulation inside the vagina needs to be firmer and also requires more reach, so it is better handled with the fingers. If she is sensitive internally, there is no reason to be a purist and insist on using only your mouth. Trying to apply firm pressure or get too much reach with my tongue is the only way I've ever had it get tired. Otherwise it seems to be inexhaustible for hours. The tongue and lips are obviously the source of most oral stimulation. I have read descriptions of using the teeth for stimulation but I don't recommend it. The tissues are very sensitive and one uncontrolled body movement from her could cause a lot of pain and leave a scratch. This can also occur with fingernails, so keep them short, with no rough edges. The only use I've found for teeth during oral sex is pressing their front surface through the cushion of the upper lip to apply firm pressure to the buried root of the clitoris at the base of the pubic bone. If she really wants hard pressure on the clitoris, you might try using your teeth with your lips rolled inwards to cover the surfaces (a technique borrowed from nipple stimulation). The clitoris is your main area of concentration. Some women don't like it to be stimulated directly because it is too sensitive. It also may disappear under its hood at some stages of arousal and stopping to try and locate it again disrupts the stimulation. In both these cases, the hood and labia (lips) nearby should be stimulated to indirectly stimulate the clitoris. The labia are sensitive themselves as well. Trying to stimulate the vagina orally is difficult and not very effective except for a little variety. I've always found the 69 (mutual oral sex) positions give the wrong angle for best access, though that might be due to less experience with them. They definitely make it more difficult for the female to stimulate the male well, since they place the sensitive underside of the penis away from her tongue. It is usually better to take turns giving and receiving anyway, just to avoid distraction. There is a wide variety of types of stimulation that can be used. The tongue can be used flat to broadly stroke areas or pointed to tease a small area. Linear, circular or any other imaginable motions can be used. The lips can apply suction, press something between them, or have their wet and outward rolled inner surfaces used for broad strokes like the tongue. The nose can provide some interesting stimulation when the tongue is occupied lower down. Mustaches and beards can be used to tickle with. You can blow a narrow stream of cool air at a spot or breathe warm air over an entire area (just don't try to inflate the vagina; it may be dangerous). Experiment and find out what works best for you and your partner. It may change at different times and levels of arousal. Light teasing and varied stimulation are good for early arousal, but steady rhythmic stimulation is best for bringing her to orgasm. You just have to learn her responses to avoid changing stimulation too quickly for her to get excited or staying with the same stimulation after it has lost effectiveness. --------------------------------------- c3-3. What should I do to make (the first attempt at) anal sex easiest? Compiled, edited, and reorganized by adchen@phoenix.princeton.edu with material from (stsou@hpcupt1.cup.hp.com (Sharon Tsou), KAT, clw5@po.CWRU.Edu (Christopher L. Wood), kwatsi@athena.mit.edu (Atomic Playboy), and rpeck@jessica.stanford.edu (Raymond Peck) STRETCH FIRST The key to attempting anal sex is two-fold: stretching exercises and relaxation. This is to accomplish two things: 1) to get your virgin ass used to something inside it, and 2) to get your ass used to something as large as your partner's cock. Stretching exercises will give you a chance to learn the needed relaxation for the first attempt. The faster you learn to relax the muscles involved, the easier it will be. You can use either a dildo or fingers for the stretching exercises. USING A DILDO These are available at just about every adult bookstore and many mail-order places (see questions c2-7 and c2-10). Once you get one, you should just practice using it. You'll probably find it easier to at least use some lubricant, at least on the first couple inches of it (more on this later), as well as on your asshole, and a little inside your anus. This is to make the penetration much easier. The actual penetration of the head of the penis is probably the most difficult part, which is why a dildo is more realistic, and you should most likely spend a fair amount of time getting used to it. This can either be just inserting it up to the head, then pulling it out and putting it in again, or completely inserting it, and then removing it. You should do it enough until you get to the point where you feel pretty comfortable with it. (Well, as comfortable as it can be). There are two steps to practice insertion with the dildo. First, you want to insert it the "normal" way, moving and rotating the dildo around to find the most comfortable position for you. Do it this way, so that you know which ways are more acceptable, and which ways are more difficult or feel a bit painful. When you have this down, you want to repeat the "exercise", only now trying to keep the dildo as stationary as possible, moving your ass and body to facilitate its entry. This is a better simulation of when he really tries to penetrate you, because (especially if you're on the bottom and he's on the top) you really can't expect to be able to reach around and move his cock to where you want it. You're going to have to be able to adjust your body to his thrusts. I really can't tell you the best way to do this, although doing it in whatever position you expect to be in with him (on your stomach or back, for example) would probably be the best way to also practice it. USING FINGERS All you need are your or your partner's fingers. Of course, you can't have long nails. You start out by slowly pushing one well- lubricated finger (index is best and hand lotion or vaginal juices work fine). Slowly move this in and out, gradually pressing more against the walls of the anus. Since an "anal virgin" will probably be nervous about this, his/her anal muscles will tend to contract, causing pain. So it helps if he/she/you (I'll use 'she' from now on) reads, listens to music, or masturbates so her mind will be off her anus. After the muscles loosen up, put another finger in along with the first, and then keep moving them the same way. Eventually, add a third, and, usually, by the time you can put four fingers in comfortably, an average sized penis should be able to fit (although keep in mind most penises are *longer* than fingers, so you may not be able to push it in as far). THE REAL THING USE A CONDOM AND LUBRICANT When the time comes that you do have anal sex with him, I would recommend having a condom. I think we all know the potential dangers of sex (especially anal sex) when not using one, so there's no real explanation needed. They also help reduce the mess (although if you go to the bathroom before this, and wash your ass with a wet rag, the inside of your rectum will be quite clean, and you should be able to put a finger in it without it picking up any solid particles), and you can have anal sex with a condom on, then pull off the condom and have vaginal sex. Remember to urinate before getting buttfucked, because this position puts pressure on the bladder. The next item is a good lubricant. I always use it with my one inch thick dildo, so I have to think you would definitely need to use some with a much larger real cock. While Vaseline is okay to use when practising yourself, it is unacceptable to use when using a condom, since it will start to break the latex down. KY is usually the preferred choice. Lube up both the outside of the anus and the penis shaft (very important!). Any lubricant that is condom compatible is ok, that means water-based. So do not use vaseline, baby oil, or cold cream. Use KY Jelly, AstroGlide, HR, or PrePair. PrePair is a good one because it contains nonoxynyl-9, which is a spermicide that also can kill many bacteria. Spit is also a viable lubricant, provided that you keep replenishing it. It evaporates more readily than other lubricants, especially during lengthy (ho ho) sessions, so you'll have to be aware. GOING FOR IT: take it *slow* Okay, now that we've got the preparatory details out of the way, it's time to enter. You should proceed VERY slowly. Place the head of your penis against the anus, and then, apply a SMALL amount of pressure so that the penis enters very slowly. It is important to maintain control on entry because if you apply too much pressure and the anal muscles just 'give way' it could hurt like hell. Once you two become accustomed to doing this, it will become much easier. Getting inside may take anywhere from 15 seconds to 15 minutes. Don't be impatient! If you push too hard or go too fast, you can tear her. This isn't really serious, but it'll surely end your fun for the day! She may want you to ease up on the pressure at times to allow her body to get used to the opening. When she gives you the go-ahead, it often helps to do a bit of short stroking, starting with ~1/8" and going to maybe 1". When you start to slide inside, she will most likely open up and relax better. Don't start out thrusting, just gently move back and forth, or just get it inside and rest it there until she's used to it. This is the most important part for her comfort and pleasure. Basically, you apply a bit of pressure, and as she relaxes she will let you in. Sometimes the act of her "pushing out" (like defecating) will relax her sphincter. After you become more used to it, a slight (~ 1/4") pumping of the pressure will let her open up faster. Sometimes she will find it painful for you to go in all the way: it's similar to hitting the cervix. Don't go in all the way! Just be very gentle at bottom of the stroke 'till it eases up. After a while, if she is properly relaxed, you should not need to be gentle: you can pump away with mad abandon. In fact, some find this most stimulating. I pump all the way in, and then all the way out, pulling completely out of her for a moment (although not too long, 'cause she'll start to contract right away). OTHER STUFF Never switch orifices (i.e. going from anal to vaginal play) without carefully washing with soap and water. Bacteria from the colon can cause nasty vaginal infections. If you are using sex toys (dildos or anal plugs) cover it with a condom first, so you can simply pull off the condom and put on a fresh one to use on another orifice or another partner, provided that you don't have contaminated lubricant oozing all over the place. You may or may not be need some type of pillow. This is basically to prop under the ass or lay under the stomach to make the angle of penetration a little easier. Whether you need this will depend on where you have sex (it may be impractical to bring one, or the positioning may be good enough already). If you are into learning from pornography (and if you just want a good laugh ;-)) I would suggest that you check out Hollywood Video's "The Best of Caught From Behind: Part II". It's very pornographic, very informative, and very funny. It's up to you though. POSITIONS As for positions, it's usually easiest for insertion (unless she's *really* excited!) in the spoon position. This also gives you access to easily stimulate her in other ways. Be careful not to transfer anything from the anal region to the vagina: this can cause infections. I usually keep a set of fingers or a hand "clean" for this purpose. This is also, of course, important for non-intercourse anal stimulation, such as cunnilingus with some fingers rubbing, some inside her vagina, and some in her anus. Keep those fingers partitioned! We usually switch to "on the knees-face in the pillow, her pressing hard on her clit and pubic bone", to avoid severe abrasion burns! ;-) Spoon position allows her more control over initial insertion, while the other, well, it has its own advantages! The other positions, after initial insertion, to face-to-face, with her legs on my shoulders. This really allows some serious depth. The position depends largely on how well you two fit together. If you are tall and if your SO is short, you might want to try having her lie flat on her stomach. You could also have her lie on her back with her knees drawn up. In this situation, it might be a good idea to place a pillow under her buttocks (depending on what the two of you like). If dimensional factors permit, she could also be on her hands and knees. Xref: bloom-picayune.mit.edu alt.sex:103545 news.answers:5203 Newsgroups: alt.sex,news.answers Path: bloom-picayune.mit.edu!enterpoop.mit.edu!thunder.mcrcim.mcgill.edu!homer.cs.mcgill.ca!superdj From: superdj@cs.mcgill.ca (David JOHNSON) Subject: [alt.sex] FAQ (2/4) Message-ID: Followup-To: alt.sex Summary: frequently asked questions for alt.sex Originator: superdj@binkley.cs.mcgill.ca Keywords: Parts c3-4 to c3-15 Sender: news@cs.mcgill.ca (Netnews Administrator) Organization: SOCS - Mcgill University, Montreal, Canada Date: Tue, 12 Jan 1993 01:35:35 GMT Approved: news-answers-request@MIT.Edu Expires: Wed, 10 Feb 1993 00:00:00 GMT Lines: 1112 Archive-name: alt-sex/faq/part2 Last-modified: 1 Jan 1993 --------------------------------------- c3-4. How does one give a hand job? How to Give the Perfect Hand Job by Brooks Peters Sex means more than intercourse; exploring all the different variations enhances your sex life and keeps it from getting stale. Masturbating your partner can be very exciting for both of you. So, read on and learn how to let your fingers do the walking. Mutual masturbation can be a thrilling experience, but first, we need to study the basics of manual technique. Most men feel women aren't skilled at handling penises. Their grips are too limp, lacking conviction and exuberance. They seem afraid to apply pressure, yet often pull or tug at inappropriate moments, disrupting the rhythm. They also have a tendency to scratch. Clearly, we all need to be more knowledgeable about the proper methods of mutual masturbation. Either you or your partner can perform the following exercises. But it is written with an experienced woman in mind. The first concern is always a matter of size. Is it large or small? Somewhere in between? No issue has ever received greater attention than the size of a man's penis. Man's obsession with cock size is probably a mental vestige of his primitive primate past, but as far as human sexuality is concerned, it's a waste of time. A large penis doesn't have any effect on a woman's physical enjoyment unless she has a deep-seated psychological attachment to well-endowed men. How about its shape? Is it curved like a boomerang or is it straight like an arrow? Does your fist fit around the spongy mass of the shaft? Does your hand completely engulf it? This is good because you can squeeze it all at once. But don't be an organ grinder. Be gentle, yet firm. If the penis has an unusual girth, your hand may not completely encircle it. In such cases, try both hands to insure you don't miss any of the tender areas while stroking. Explore every square inch of his genital surface area. A man loves to have his penis worshipped, played with, tickled, fondled, massaged. Let him know that you are not afraid, ashamed or disgusted. Don't start stroking or jerking quite yet. Just feel the fullness of it all. Let your fingers run from the balls to the top of the cock head, swirl around there, then slide back down the other half and end back down at the balls. The movements should be swift and smooth, without bumping or stalling. Now you're ready for some stepped-up action, but you don't want to suddenly lapse into a series of beatings, whackings, jackings and jerkings. Tease the more sensitive areas of the penis. These include: the glans and corona, and the tender part of the bottom side of his penis. Bring your palm up to the top of the glans and park it there flat out, fingers held together and stiff, thumb pointed straight out. Spin it around as if you were trying desperately to remove the tight lid of a jar. Your man will be groaning in delicious agony. The glans is super sensitive and this motion will bring him exquisite pleasure. He might grimace and cry out, and probably try to push your hand away, but he's loving every second of it. Now's your chance to be the one who plows ahead even though he's pleading with you to stop! After you've done this for a while, slip your hand down his testicles and ever-so-gently grab them in your fingers, softly tugging them down away from his shaft. If they are big and bulky, like Grade AA eggs, bounce them up and down a couple of times in your hand. Tell him how heavy they feel, how sexy they are. Whatever you do, don't squeeze them! This could put a real damper on your lovemaking for the rest of the day. You might notice that one of his nuts hangs lower than the other. This is perfectly normal. Once you feel comfortable with the way his balls feel in your hand, gently roll them up the underside of his shaft. Depending on their size and the amount of room in the scrotum, they will most likely reach to half way of his penis. He will like the way this feels. Now, let go of his testicles and bring your fingers together in a makeshift goosehead formation. Very lightly, begin to stroke his erection with your fingers, running them all over his sensitive shaft and balls. You may wish to slip the pocket of your goosehead handhold over the tip of his penis, letting it rest there for a few seconds. About this time, the penis will probably start to emit its natural lubricant. Pre-seminal fluid is nature's way of moistening the canal of the urethra so that the spermatozoa can swim more easily out of it; it also lubricates the head of the penis. An uncircumcised penis gathers up this lubricant within the foreskin and keeps the head very moist and slick. Use the juice to lubricate the shaft. Sometimes, its musky smell can be an aromatic aphrodisiac for you both. If there is little or no pre-cum, don't be concerned. It is not a requirement, and it doesn't always appear at exactly the same time. In any case a good lubricant will work just as well. Add a drop of moisturizing lotion to the shaft and gently rub it in. Alexandra Penney, in her book, "How to Make Love to a Man", is very keen on massaging the lotion between one's hands before putting it on the penis because sometimes the cream is cold and the palm-rubbing warms it up. If your partner doesn't seem to have a very firm erection, try using a cinnamon-based ointment which you can find at your local sex novelty store or acquire through a mail catalog. The slight burning sensation often causes the penis to become rock-hard. Adding a little dab to the testicles also helps. If you really want to do a number on him, slip a dollop of Ben-Gay on his balls and watch him go through the roof. One of the secrets of great manual sex is varying your hand motions. Here are a few indispensable techniques: SWITCH HITTER Use both hands, alternating back and forth in a pattern you develop to offer him the most arousal. He will notice the difference. Don't get into a routine where the strokes are dull, and noncommittal. Give it to him good. Get him to the point where he's singing out, "I second that hand motion!" DOUBLE WHAMMY How about going double or nothing! Bring both well-lubricated hands down on his shaft. Some cocks are so big they require both hands. If your partner's doesn't, then use the other hand to caress and lightly flutter his balls, or tighten around the base of his shaft. If both hands fit along the length of the shaft, move then together, up and down, in the typical pumping motion. Pretend you're holding a baseball bat and are about to score a grand slam. You can also vary the directions of your hands, one up, one down at the same time. There's no doubt that two hands are better than one. THE ANVIL STROKE Bring one hand down, letting it stroke the penis from the top all the way to the bottom. When it hits the bottom, release it. Meanwhile you're bringing your corresponding hand down to the top of the shaft, creating an alternating beating motion, hence the name "anvil stroke." Think of those blacksmith duos who keep up a double beat pounding motion as they beat that rod of iron on a piping-hot anvil. THE SHUTTLE COCK Not many people have heard of the "shuttle cock," but it's one of the best. Take the penis in both hands, fingers lightly touching the sides of the shaft. In order to visualize the position, think of yourself holding a clarinet. Now flick the penis back and forth between your two hands by holding on to the loose skin of the shaft. Shuttling it back and forth in this manner may not seem incredibly thrilling to him at first, but pretty soon, as it builds up momentum, it will drive him out of his mind. Orgasms encountered via this method are sometimes messy, but always memorable. THE BOOKENDS Place both of your hands side by side against his shaft like a pair of bookends. Now push hard against his penis. Then lift your hands up and down. Continue in this manner for a while. The constant tugging of the skin around the balls and the mons pubis will do the trick. THE FLAME Place your hands down on either side, your fingers pointing away from the cock. Pretend you're a campfire girl and start spinning his pecker like a stick of wood. This way you'll keep the home fires burning for a long time to come. THE BASE CLUTCH Tighten your thumb and forefinger around the base of the shaft, pressing down on the balls. This will cut off the blood (acting as an impromptu cock ring) and help you steady the shaft in your hand. If the skin on it is slick and immutable, you can stroke the penis with more friction, thereby enhancing the excruciating experience. THE LOVE TUG As you are stroking him, lightly pull on the wispy strands of pubic hair sprouting from his testicles. Don't pull so hard that you remove them, but tease them gently, lovingly. This will make him holler with delight and awe at your inventiveness. THE TWO-TIMER Tickle his balls with one hand while the other jerks him up and down. THE THIGH-SWATTER Use the hand that is currently unemployed to firmly but lovingly pat his inner thighs. BEST FIST FORWARD Place your fist against his perineum as you're stroking him. He'll probably start opening his legs a little wider, giving you more space to press against. Guaranteed to drive him wild. As always, it is the psychological impact of what you are doing that makes the sex so satisfying. Let your mind escape into the uncharted wilderness of fantasy. As a sexual pioneer, it is your manifest destiny to explore the outer limits of your sensuality. From: "The Contrivor" "How to give the perfect handjob" has inspired the following additions. All of the techniques below require good lubrication... Vaseline or alboline are recommended. A fifty/fifty mixture of these two lubricants is excellent. CAVEAT - Never use oil-based lubricants in conjunction with latex protection THE MILKER Opposite of the Anvil - Hands alternate 'milking' up the penis, starting at the base and working all the way up past the tip. THE PERPETUAL PENETRATION Like the Anvil, but rather than just grabbing the penis at the top, let his penis 'penetrate' into your fist on each stroke. Before the head of his penis pops out of your hand, bring the other hand up for the next penetration. This way it seems to him like he is penetrating deeper and deeper into an infinite vagina. Make sure you keep the penetration continuous for best results. Try faster or slower to taste. THE PALM SWIRL - Use your open palm to swirl around the head, the way your tongue would lick an ice cream cone. This sensitizes the head, and will make it get larger and turn (even more) red. Try reversing direction for a surprise. TINY CIRCLES - As in "The Palm Swirl", use your open palm on his glans, but stop at each "hour of the clock", and make circular motions with your open palm. This will make this part of the head EXTREMELY sensitive, so move to the next hour after a few circles. THE RING - Make a ring with your thumb and forefinger, and pump up and down with this ring. When you get to the top, close the ring, then make him squeeze his way in as you slide back down to the bottom. THE DOOR KNOB - Turn the head of his penis like a you're trying to open a door knob coated with grease. It won't turn, but he may flip. Now try turning the other way. Repeat. THE SHAFT - Stroke only his shaft, ignoring the head. You will notice it swelling and turning red. When it's bright red and rock hard, use the Door Knob, the Palm Swirl, or the Perpetual Penetration. THE SPOT PINCH -- Lightly and slowly run a finger up the under side of his cock. Ask him to tell you where the most sensitive spot is. Pinch it, squeeze it, nibble it, tease it. This is a good spot to pinch to turn a soft cock rock solid. --------------------------------------- c3-5. What is circumcision and why is it done? From: Travis Lee Winfrey "Male circumcision is the surgical removal of the foreskin from the penis. When performed in a hospital, it is usually done shortly after birth by a doctor or midwife. Circumcisions are also given to Jewish boys by a _mohel_ in a ceremony eight days after birth. Some (all?) Islamic boys are circumcised when they are older, around 12. The majority of American boys are circumcised. Common reasons for circumcision include: better hygiene, "normal" or "better" appearance, and "his penis should look like his father's." Common reasons against circumcision include: it is no longer necessary for hygienic reasons; it is a painful, barbaric practice; possibility of infection or surgical error; "normal" or "better" appearance; "his penis should look like his father's."; and "greater sensitivity of uncircumcised penis." Female circumcision is used to refer to a variety of practices, including the removal of the clitoral hood. It is primarily practised in Northern Africa.'' --------------------------------------- c3-6. What is the Venus butterfly? This is allegedly a technique which is supposed to do orgasmic wonders. It was mentioned in an episode of L.A. Law, but of course, was never explained. Some people have suggested a method that might fit the name: Put your palms together, finger to finger, spread your fingers, and insert one pair of fingers into the vagina, another into the anus, plus another pair, stimulating the clitoris. This provides a sort of triple stimulation. --------------------------------------- c3-7. What are the contents of semen? From _SEX A TO Z_ by Robert M. Goldenson, Ph.D., and Kenneth N. Anderson Copyright 1989 by Walter D. Glanze, Pub. by World Almanac, P. 243: Semen content - a term usually referring to the total content of semen (whereas the term semen analysis usually refers to the analysis of sperm). The question of semen content arises especially among persons who regularly swallow semen, as in fellatio, and who are concerned about calorie intake and nutritional substances. The average ejaculate of aboutonia, ascorbic acid, blood-group antigens, calcium, chlorine, cholesterol, choline, citric acid, creatine, deoxyribonucleic acid (DNA), fructose, glutathione, hyaluronidase, inositol, lactic acid, magnesium, nitrogen, phosphorus, potassium, purine, pyrimidine, pyruvic acid, sodium, sorbitol, spermidine, spermine, urea, uric acid, vitamin b12, zinc... For analysis of sperm, see SEMEN ANALYSIS. Note FRUCTOSE and SODIUM (salt) ARE listed. --------------------------------------- c3-8. How much semen and how many sperm are in a single ejaculate? From _Dimensions of Human Sexuality_ by Curtis O. Byer and Louis W. Shainberg, third edition Copyright 1991 by Wm. C. Brown Publishers, P. 103: Although highly variable, there may be 40 to 120 million sperm per millilitre of semen. With a volume of 2 to 5 ml (1/2 to 1 tsp) per ejaculate, this means there may be 80 to 600 million sperm in one ejaculation. --------------------------------------- c3-9. Does what I eat affect the taste of semen/vaginal fluids? From: unknown The old adage "You are what you eat" has been known for a long time. I have heard that the Chinese, most of whom have a genetic trait commonly known as Lactose Intolerance, think that Westerners "smell funny" and this has been attributed to the milk in the Western diet. Regarding vegetables, one of my old girlfriends had a habit of eating a lot of sweet fruits and veggies; she tasted wonderful. On the other hand, Xaviera Hollander (The Happy Hooker; Call Me Madam) once gave advice to a man who was seriously considering becoming a gigolo: Don't eat spicy foods. Your customers will smell it in your natural odour and may end up tasting it in your semen--a bad experience to receive. --------------------------------------- c3-10. What is and where is the G-Spot? FIRST ARTICLE (Author: unknown) G wiz aka g-spot aka Grafenberg spot Summary: 1) The g-spot exists in all women. 2) sensitivity varies. 3) Reaction/interpretation/openness varies. G-spot IS female analog to prostate. It really does exist. The road map (can by used by a man/woman with a woman partner or a woman on herself). Start from the pubic bone, it is the bone running across the lower end of the abdominal region -- between the thighs and a little above the clitoris and labia. The g-spot is behind this bone -- so you need to find a way around to the other side. Fortunately, there is an alternate approach in women -- up the vagina. The walls of the vagina are somewhat wrinkly, a testimony to how much the vagina can stretch (say to the size of a baby's head). On the forward surface there is a smoother patch in about 2 knuckles (1.5-3 inches, 3.5-7 cm.). If a woman was to lay her palm on top of her clitoris and curl a finger (or fingers) in to the vagina in to a loose clench, the tips would be in the right region. The g-spot is buried under some layers of tissue so it may take some pressure to stimulate this area. Repeating some general hints. Arousal of the g-spot is usually more effective if the woman is already sexually aroused. Sharp or long nails are probably a no-no. Some pressure may be necessary. Two fingers are usually employed -- esp. since few people use mechanical typewriters (which would give fingers strength and endurance). Initial sensations in the woman may be a) discomfort, an urge to urinate (the urethra from the bladder is being stimulated), or a pleasurable sensation. As stimulation continues (few minutes), the g-spot will begin to swell. "Continued stimulation of the area _may_ result in an orgasm that is often quite intense." [see above regarding being sexually aroused -- first. No arousal -- no orgasm]. Ejaculation is possible, but the fluid is different from vaginal secretions and from urine. This does not work for all women. Discuss with your intimates. Compare notes. For some women, this area may receive stimulus in penile- vaginal intercourse given the right angles. Rear entry ("doggie style") may facilitate penile pressure in this region. If the partner you are playing with is a man, you can try for a similar effect on his prostate entering through his anus -- Long or sharp nails are a big NO-NO. You might want to use a glove or condom over fingers. I should not need to say: DO NOT allow fecal material on or around woman's vagina. Note this can actually cause an ejaculation from a man without orgasm or an intense orgasm or something in between or nothing at all. PLEASE: Practice safe sex. No exchange of bodily fluids -- blood, feces (which may contain blood), semen, or female ejaculum; unless you both have been monogamous... SECOND ARTICLE (author: Peter A. Merel) ok, I got a copy of this thing from two different people, and it was the same manual, so I guess this is the authentic one after all. I also received an interesting letter from a girl in California that claimed she had written the g-spot manual. I would leave her address, but she probably wouldn't like that so if you want it, drop me a note and I'll give it to ya. Well, good luck finding it! I know I'll be having some fun tonight! Okay, I've found G-spots in three women of my acquaintance. Two of them were completely delighted with the discovery, and the other one wasn't real crazy about it no matter what. Chacun a son gout. It took some time and patience for one of the delighted ones, but the other delighted one reckoned that she'd hit it by accident a few times and just not known what happened. She responded immediately, and with gusto. Now I guess it's time for sex-ed 101, so listen up all of you who have a sexual interest in female anatomy. The rest of you probably ought to hit 'n' now. 7 will get you 2 that not a single netter hit 'n'. Well, let's start with a nice juicy diagram. You'll have to bear with my ability to render in ASCII. In an ideal world I'd sit one of the secretaries on top of the fax machine, but, sadly, we are restricted to text here. If you have access to ######### These hashes are supposed a set of female genitals ####### to be pubic hair covering I'd suggest that you ##### the pudendum. compare them with this ### schematic. Single females might like to use a mirror /U\ U is the clitoris (or two) to verify that /' . `\ . is the urethra they're set up like this. /' _ `\ The rest of the characters I should probably say { | / \ | } are supposed to be the outer that this is intended to { ` \ / ' } lips (labia majora), the represent a view of the \ ` ~ ' / inner lips (labia minora), genitals with legs spread, \ ` ' / and the vagina (or is that looking up through the torso ~|~ vulva?) as if the woman were a O O is the anus telescope. For those who never had a close look before and are a bit worried, I ought to say that, except when quite sincerely aroused, female genitals are usually not this clearly set out. The clitoris likes to hide under it's own little hood, the lips stick pretty close to one another, and it is quite likely that if the owner of the genitals is standing up and unaroused you won't really see more than some enticing tufts of hair and maybe the outer lips. Folks whose knowledge of these matters derives mainly from Playboy pictorials may be quite surprised that there's more here than 'just a hole'. Traditionally it was thought that all of the sensation available from the female genitals derived from the lips, entrance to the vagina, and especially the clitoris. In other words, what you see above. It was thought that the interior of the vagina was practically numb to sexual sensation. Now one of those old coots who spent the seventies sticking their noses into other people's intimate businesses was a guy called Grafenberg, if memory serves. Dr G. had this theory that there was an area within the vagina, which was called the Grafenberg spot or G spot, which not only was sexually sensitive but which could trigger bigger and better female orgasms than the clit and the exterior bits could by themselves. Now the trouble with Dr G.'s claim was that not everyone seemed to be able to find this spot, which he reckoned was analogous with the male prostate gland, and those that did find it didn't necessarily like it much, and so there was some controversy, especially in the popular press. A number of folks who did find it and did like it eventually sussed out the mechanics of the spot, and over the last few years there've been a number of quite good books about it. The story is basically this: The G-spot is a flat area about as big as a one or two cent piece, about two inches inside the vagina. It's just behind the pubic bone, on the vaginal wall that is closest to the belly-button. You can reach it with your index finger. If the genitals you're playing with are not very aroused then you might have difficulty finding it, or it might not feel very interesting or nice to the owner. The trick is to make those genitals very aroused, and then have a go at the G-spot. The best way is probably cunnilingus, which is latin for having a lick, but any technique that provides good stimulation of the clitoris will do for starters. Now bear in mind that I'm skipping over a lot here. I strongly recommend a good deal of foreplay before diving into a woman's muff, like at least half an hour, and longer if you like. If you can manage dinner and a good bath beforehand, even better. Actually, I reckon that a bath or a shower before sex is a reasonably good idea anyway, because we're dealing with equipment that can be quite off-putting if it's on the nose when it's on the nose, if you take my meaning. Besides, bathing is fun. So, presuming that your woman is content with the preliminaries and you're going hunting, you're going to have to begin by relaxing. Softly Softly Catchee Monkey. If you're so pent up that slamming your dick in the door has a pleasurable side to it (sorry feminists, I'm not certain what the female equivalent to that state is) then forget all this until you've had a bloody good rogering or two. Once you've achieved a state of patient interest, slowly start to stimulate the clitoris. You've got to be really careful here, because clitori are damned sensitive little beggars, and too much of a good thing is not really a good thing at all. Also, different clitori like different things. Some like quite direct stimulation, some prefer one side or the other, others are so sensitive that they like you to mainly stick to the clitoral hood or the labia. Some like a circular motion, and others like to be lightly flicked back and forth. The best way to find out what your clitoris likes is to ask it's owner, and if she doesn't know then do some experimentation. That's fun too, so don't get pissed off if it takes a little while to figure out what's good for you. As I said, my preferred method is cunnilingus, but if the owner of your clitoris doesn't like that for some reason ("no, my dear, it's not germy and it does taste rather nice") then you'll have to use your fingers. I find that the best thing for clitori is a nice regular stroke, with regular exotic interludes. Basically it's the same thing as for penises - you don't want all sorts of unpredictable jerking around, and you don't want to feel like it's caught in a vise, and you don't want it to feel like it's attached to a reciprocating engine going at 5000 revs. Take it easy. If the owner of your clitoris wants more stimulation you'll notice her writhing around and pushing it at you. If she wants less then she'll draw away. If it's just right then she'll sit where she is and enjoy it. Pay attention to what she does. So, you've got a nice regular stroke going - say, seven strokes and then something exotic, and then another seven strokes and another something exotic. Of course the G spot is in the vagina, and you're going to have to know what's going on in there if you're going to find it and do something with it. Slowly insert a finger or two. Don't grab, because that can be rude and distracting. Now hopefully the vagina that you're dealing with is well lubricated, but that won't necessarily be the case. If you spend a long time at this even the juiciest woman can start to dry out, so it never hurts to have a little lubricant handy, just in case. I'd recommend K-Y jelly, which you should be able to find at any chemist, but there are lots of alternatives. One that I wouldn't recommend is vaseline - too thick. Another is baby oil - too thin, and besides we should conserve the babies :-) You can entertain yourself by running your finger around the inside of the vagina, trying to discern its shape. Unless your female is coming (having an orgasm), you should probably find that the vagina is reasonably form-fitting, although some are tighter than others. If your female is not coming or consciously causing contractions you'll probably find that the vagina isn't doing anything in particular, just sitting there and producing lubricant. If you bring your finger to the front wall of the vagina then you'll find it less yielding than the rest, because there is a bone in front of it called the pubic bone, part of the pelvis. If you feel along this unyielding section or just beyond you may find a slightly raised area. This is the G spot. It might not be raised, but it will engorge once your female starts to come. Don't poke this spot yet. Don't do anything with it, yet. At best you won't have any effect, and at worst you'll be distracting. You've got to wait for your female to start to come. Now this might happen in thirty seconds, or it might take an hour, and you've just got to be patient and keep things regular and smooth. You'll be able to tell your woman is coming when: - she tells you - she moans one hell of a lot and her breathing changes - she flushes, over her face, neck and/or chest - her vagina begins to flutter rhythmically around your finger You may see all of these things, or you may see none of them. If you miss an orgasm, don't stop unless you or she wants to. Women have startling recuperative powers, particularly when they're receiving the right level of attention, and generosity is its own reward. Multiple orgasms are not mythical. Once you believe that your woman is coming you should shift your attention from the clitoris to the G spot. Keep up the same rhythm, but use more pressure. You may want to keep some sort of contact with the clitoris, but just as a penis becomes supersensitive during orgasm, to the point of discomfort, so can a clit. As with the clitoris, you should pay attention to whether the woman pushes towards you, draws away from you or just sits there to gauge the amount of pressure you're giving. You probably won't need to vary your speed much, but pay attention to what she says she wants. Now as you go at the G spot you'll find that your woman keeps coming for longer than you've seen before. You may even experience that most startling of sexual phenomena, a female ejaculation. I've seen three of these (actually I got a mouthful), but I can't say whether the fluid comes from the vagina or the urethra. It's quite nice, sort of like salad dressing. It's definitely not urine, and it is probably polite and hopefully reciprocal to swallow it. Keep going at that G spot. Eventually you will feel the vagina draw away from your finger - it becomes bigger and the walls get taut, and not form-fitting, sort of like a little cave. When it does this it's time to switch back to the clitoris. Keep up the same rhythm. When the vagina begins to contract on your finger again, go back to the G spot. If you keep this up for a while (and if the owner of your female genitals wants to stop, then stop - this isn't a competition), you'll find that the nature of the vaginal contractions changes. The cave effect becomes less and less frequent and you can spend more and more time with the G spot. Also, the contractions in the vagina become less simple squeezing and fluttering, and more a sort of reverse swallowing - a contraction that starts deep within the vagina and travels to its entrance. It feels a bit like the vagina is trying to push your finger out. Eventually (may take hours and patience and many tries) you've got nothing but these push-out contractions, and you can go on as long as the owner of the genitals wants to, and your tongue and fingers don't wear out. If you go on this long you're almost certainly going to need some extra lubricant, so be prepared. There you have it. At least in my experience, women can have orgasms that last orders of magnitude longer and seem to be much better than those that men can have. I guess I better add a disclaimer that all of this is only one man's experience, and I could be completely wrong about the female genitals that you have. I'm not certain there is such a thing as device independence where sexual equipment is concerned. I don't think that any of the things I've advocated can do you any harm, but see your doctor if you've doubts. The main thing is to have fun. Happy fucking. THIRD ARTICLE (for those who prefer a more scientific approach) From: N51LS801@ncsuvm.cc.ncsu.edu Message-ID: <167B7BB6F.N51LS801@ncsuvm.cc.ncsu.edu> Date: 27 Mar 92 18:19:42 GMT The following information about female ejaculation and the Grafenberg spot is quoted from a widely used, frequently revised college text on human sexuality: Robert Crooks and Karla Baur, OUR SEXUALITY, 4th ed. (Redwood City, CA: Benjamin/Cummings Pub. Co., 1990), 117, 206-208. [HQ21.C698 1990] Cited references are given at the end of the selection. The Grafenberg spot is an area located within the anterior (or front) wall of the vagina, about one centimetre from the surface and one-third to one-half way in from the vaginal opening. It is reported to consist of a system of glands (Skene's glands) and ducts that surround the urethra (Heath, 1984). This area is believed to be the female counterpart of the male prostate gland and to develop from the same embryonic tissue (Belzer, 1981; Heath, 1984). The Grafenberg spot has generated considerable interest because of reports that some women experience sexual arousal, orgasm, or perhaps an ejaculation of fluid when stimulated there. There is wide variation in response from person to person (Zaviacic et al., 1988). (117) In the last few years, a number of studies have reported that some women are capable of experiencing orgasm, and perhaps ejaculation, when an area along the anterior wall of the vagina is vigorously stimulated (Addiego et al., 1981; Alzate & Hoch, 1986; Belzer, 1981; Perry & Whipple, 1981; Sevely & Bennet, 1978; Whipple & Komisaruk, 1988; Zaviacic et al., 1988). This area of erotic sensitivity... has been named the Grafenberg spot (or G spot) in honour of Ernest Grafenberg (1950), a gynecologist who first noted the erotic significance of this location within the vagina 40 years ago. However, the presence of glandular structures in this area was noted in the medical literature over 100 years ago (Skene, 1880). Recently, it has been suggested that the Grafenberg spot is not a point that can be touched by the tip of one finger but, rather, fairly large area composed of the lower anterior wall of the vagina and the underlying urethra and surrounding glands. Adequate stimulation of this much vaginal tissue may require use of "the full breadth of the middle two fingers and at least two thirds of their lengths" (Heath, 1984, p. 205) Robert Mallon (1984), a pathologist and medical researcher, recently presented evidence of glandular material similar to prostate tissue in the Grafenberg area of 42 females examined by postmortem autopsies. Corroboration of this research was provided by another study in which complete urethras and surrounding tissue from 17 autopsied females and a portion of a urethra from one surgical specimen were examined. Over 80% of the specimens had prostatelike glandular tissue, the majority of which contained substances known to be produced by the male prostate (Heath, 1984). The Grafenberg spot, or area, may be located by "systematic palpation of the entire anterior wall of the vagina between the posterior side of the pubic bone and the cervix. Two fingers are usually employed, and it is often necessary to press deeply into the tissue to reach the spot" (Perry & Whipple, 1981, p. 29). This exploration may conducted by a woman's partner, as shown in Figure 6.9 [Diagram omitted] Some women are able to locate their Grafenberg spot through self-exploration. (206) During initial searching for the sometimes elusive Grafenberg spot, a woman or her partner must rely on the sensations produced by manual stimulation. When the area is located, women report a variety of initial sensations, including a slight feeling of discomfort, a brief sensation of needing to urinate, or a pleasurable feeling. After a minute or more of stroking the sensations usually become more pleasurable, and the area may begin to swell to a discernible size. Continued stimulation of the area may result in an orgasm that is often quite intense. Perhaps the most amazing thing about Grafenberg spot orgasms is that they are sometimes accompanied by the ejaculation of fluid from the urethral opening. Four researchers describe their observation of this event: [Begin quote] With the aid of the subject's husband, four of us (Addiego, Belzer, Perry, and Whipple) were able to observe her response to digital massage of her Grafenberg spot, which led to expulsion of liquid, and reportedly and apparently to orgasm, on several occasions. On none of these occasions did stimulation of the clitoris, direct or otherwise, appear to occur. Orgasmic expulsions occurred after less than a minute of stimulation; they were separated in a multi- orgasmic series by similarly brief periods of time. The urethral area was clearly exposed in bright light, and there was absolutely no doubt that the liquid was expelled from the urethral meatus. Sometimes it exuded from the meatus. At other times it was expelled from one to a few centimetres. On one observed occasion, expulsion was of sufficient force to create a series of wet spots covering a distance of more than a meter. (Addiego et al., 1981, p. 17) [End quote] (207) Research indicates that the source of this fluid is the "female prostate"... The ducts from this system empty directly into the urethra. In some women Grafenberg orgasms result in fluid being forced through these ducts and out the urethra. In view of the homologous nature of the Grafenberg spot tissue and the male prostate, we might speculate that the female ejaculate is similar to the prostatic component of male seminal fluid. This notion has been supported by one study in which specimens of female ejaculate were chemically analyzed and found to contain high levels of an enzyme, prostatic acid phosphatase (PAP), characteristic of the prostatic component of semen (Addiego et al., 1981). Many women report that the fluid has a mild semenlike scent. A later study of six female ejaculators failed to differentiate samples of their urine and the fluid they ejaculated during sexual response (Goldberg et al., 1983). However, a still more recent study of seven women who ejaculate reported that the collected urine and ejaculate samples differed substantially in the amount of PAP present (Belzer et al., 1984). The inconsistency in these findings may be due, at least in part, to a methodological problem arising from the fact that both ejaculate and urine are delivered through the urethra. A very recent study reported finding concentrations of fructose in the female ejaculate (Zaviacic et al., 1988b). (... fructose is a major component of male ejaculate.) The fructose level in the orgasmic expulsions of women is considerably higher than that found in their urine, a finding that "suggests that the female ejaculate cannot be simply regarded as urine..." (Zaviacic et al., 1988b, p. 323). We can expect that the controversy over the biochemistry of the female ejaculate will continue until, hopefully, further research clarifies the precise nature of this fluid. (208) References cited: Addiego, F. Belzer, E., Comolli, J., Moger, W., Perry, J. and Whipple, B. (1981) Female ejaculation: A case study. JOURNAL OF SEX RESEARCH, 17, 13-21. Alzate, H. and Hoch, Z. (1986) The "G spot" and "female ejaculation": A current appraisal. JOURNAL OF SEX AND MARITAL THERAPY, 12, 211-220. Belzer, E. Orgasmic expulsions of women: A review and heuristic inquiry. JOURNAL OF SEX RESEARCH, 17, 1-12. Goldberg, D., Whipple, B., Fishkin, R., Waxman, H., Fink, P. and Weisberg, M. (1983) The Grafenberg spot and female ejaculation: A review of initial hypotheses. JOURNAL OF SEX AND MARITAL THERAPY, 9, 27-37. Heath, D. An investigation into the origins of a copious vaginal discharge during intercourse -"enough to wet the bed"-that "is not urine." JOURNAL OF SEX RESEARCH, 20, 194-215. Mallon, R. (Oct. 1984) Demonstration of vestigial prostatic tissue in the human female. Paper presented at the Annual Regional Conference of American Association of Sex Educators, Counsellors, and Therapists, Las Vegas. Perry, J. and Whipple, B. (1981) Pelvic muscle strength of female ejaculators: Evidence in support of a new theory of orgasm. JOURNAL OF SEX RESEARCH, 17, 22-39. Sevely, J. and Bennett, J. (1979) Concerning female ejaculation and the female prostate. JOURNAL OF SEX RESEARCH, 14, 1-20. Skene, A. (1880) Two important glands of the urethra. AMERICAN JOURNAL OF OBSTETRICS, 265, 265-270. Whipple, B. and Komisaruk, B. (1988) Analgesia produced in women by genital self-stimulation. JOURNAL OF SEX RESEARCH, 24, 130- 140. Zaviacic, M., Zaviacicova, A., Holoman, I., and Molcan, J. (1988a) Female urethral expulsions evoked by local digital stimulation of the G-spot: Differences in the response patterns. JOURNAL OF SEX RESEARCH, 24, 311-318. Zaviacic, M., Dolezalova, S., Holoman, K., Zaviacicova, A., Mikulecky, M., and Bradil, V. (1988b) Concentrations of fructose in female ejaculate and urine: A comparative biochemical study. JOURNAL OF SEX RESEARCH, 24, 319-325. --------------------------------------- c3-11. How can females ejaculate? (read c3-10 for related G-spot info) From "Christopher K. Howard" Date: 4 March 1992 11:00:27 CST I have recently come across an very interesting short film of 15 minute length and is entitled "Nice Girls Don't Do It" by K Daymond. It is a documentary styled film which discusses what it is, how it is done and then gives directions of "how to do it" The remaining text is printed without permission Female ejaculation, once thought to be normal and a pleasurable part of female sexuality came to be a symptom of the hysteric, the content of male fantasy, and the property of pornographic woman. To accept female ejaculation one has to accept sameness and the equality of male and female bodies. Both male and female bodies have prostate gland structures along the floor of the urethra and have potential to ejaculate fluids during sexual stimulation. The female body, can ejaculate fluid from 31 ducts, can with stimulation, ejaculate repeatedly; and as well, can enjoy a plurality of genital pleasure sites; the clitoris, urethra, vagina... Female ejaculation can serve only one purpose: Pleasure The film contains scenes which show or describe the following: - hot sticky fluids very fluid in nature (looks like urine IMHO) - female ejaculation is so much more powerful that it belittles what we have always seen to be powerful in man. - visible pushing of vagina and urethra through vaginal orifice. - forces man's penis out to ejaculate. - shows scenes of woman in self bondage - 40% of all women ejaculate - no high content of urine, contains prostate gland fluid (IMHO the colour is wrong it is clear where it would need to be opaque) The following has been printed without permission: Directions on how to ejaculate: STEP ONE: Find the muscle and spongy tissue around that part of your urethra that is inside your vagina. It is about half a finger (more or less) inside your vagina and about a finger long across-- about two inches. If the muscles that go around your vagina have not been used much, they can be built up by doing contractions: pressing the top of your vagina against the bottom and releasing. This is fun and you could have an orgasm or two. DON'T WORRY: Strong muscles will not hold the penis in place; they will push it out when your ducts get full and you want to shoot. STEP TWO: Take two or three fingers and rub them against the part of your urethra inside your vagina. Press hard and notice the feeling of having to pee. You don't - this is the signal that you are ready to ejaculate. Now, place the middle finger slightly below the external part of your urethra and begin to masturbate the same way you rub your clit. As you are doing this you will notice that the two ducts, one at each side of your urethra, feel full and perhaps somewhat painful: you have another 29 ducts scattered over the top of your vagina. They are located in a pyramid from your clit to just above your ovaries. Once you get into the body feeling you will be able to locate them on the lower abdomen. (sounds like the urinary bladder IMHO) STEP THREE: Take your other hand and press down on one or more of the ducts from the outside. Push your urethra out and push the way you do when you pee. Liquid will come out -- perhaps in a steady stream or jet. My Summary: This seems to be a form of propaganda to make it a way for women to do the same thing as a man can do. I have dissected and studied human anatomy and there is no way this much fluid can come from anywhere but the urinary bladder. Plus during this film there is a tremendous amount of man bashing. Since I have posted these instructions I invite any woman to try it and report back!!! I am from Missouri "SHOW ME" The summary is strictly my opinion, responses can be directed to me. Carlos Subject: women who squirt Date: 1 Apr 92 05:51:00 GMT Organization: Carnegie Mellon, Pittsburgh, PA Female ejaculation does not require direct g-spot stimulation. A few days ago, I read a summary of research concerning the g-spot and female ejaculation. The summary described the location and activity of the g-spot, stressing that stimulation of the spot required at least two fingers, quite far in, against the anterior wall of the vagina. It talked about female ejaculation as if it were a direct consequence of hands-on stimulation of the g-spot. Interestingly enough, two days after reading all that, I had the privilege of observing a woman ejaculate. As in other reports, this was in the form of a pearly liquid squirted out of the vagina (travelling a centimetre or two) at the onset of an orgasm. For what it's worth, the ejaculate tasted saltier than the normal slippery stuff. Also, it left a strange aftertaste in the back of my throat that was very similar to what I've observed of male ejaculate. The woman reported a much more intense orgasm than usual, but wasn't immediately aware that she had ejaculated. The reason I am posting about this experience (aside from the opportunity to brag ;-) is that it differed from published reports in an interesting way: no direct stimulation of the g-spot was involved. In fact, no penetration at all was involved: stimulation of the clitoris and entrance to the vagina and previously, the nipples brought the ejaculation on. Others who are not into penetration might want to keep this in mind, though I don't think i can offer a formula for ejaculation as the scientists seem to. By way of idle speculation, I have started to wonder how much conditioning goes into sexual response. Currently, we see men as easy to bring off and uniquely capable of ejaculation. Since women are apparently also capable of ejaculation, it is not obvious that the common view is at all justified. Perhaps if female children were taught as much as males to expect to ejaculate, they would acquire this ability while learning to masturbate. --------------------------------------- c3-12. What about Oral/vaginal sex during a woman's period? What about it? For oral sex, this is a taste/smell issue; some people like it, some people don't. If both partners have no objections, go for it! I know women for whom orgasm is a wonderful reliever of cramps. As for vaginal sex, well, you need less lubricant. It's messy; use something (perhaps a red towel) to protect the bedsheets. Or do it in the shower, get clean and dirty at the same time! --------------------------------------- c3-13. What percent of men and women masturbate? and at what frequency? According to Masters and Johnson in their book 'On Sex and Human Loving' third printing, page 295: Data about masturbation are a bit tricky to interpret. You may recall that Kinsey and his colleagues found a wide discrepancy in the incidence of masturbation between male and female adolescents, but some recent studies suggest that this difference may be narrowing (see chapter 6). A similar trend may also be occurring in regard to masturbatory behavior in adulthood. The kinsey reports stated that 92 percent of the males and 62 percent of the females queried had masturbated at least once in their lives. More recently, two separate studies came up with very similar statistics: The _Playboy_ survey (Hunt, 1975) found that 94 percent of 982 males and 63 percent of 1,044 adult females had masturbated, and Arafat and Cotton's study (1974) of 435 college students found masturbatory experience in 89 percent of males and 61 percent of females. However, Levin and Levin (1975), summarizing data from a _Redbook_ questionnaire survey answered by 100,000 women, found that almost three-quarters of the married women had masturbated since marriage. Providing additional evidence that more women seem to have tried masturbation today than in the past decades, Hite reported that 82 percent of her sample of 3,000 women had masturbatory experience. For more details and speculations as to why the rise, techniques used, frequency, etc -- buy the book. --------------------------------------- c3-14. How are the bases defined again? (ie. 1st base = kissing, etc.) ,^. < 2 > 2nd Base: Groping, copping a / `.' \ feel / \ / \ 3rd Base: ,^./ _ \,^. Finger-fucking, < 3 > |O| < 1 > 1st Base: [French] mutual masturb. `.'\ - /`.' kissing \ / \ / \ ___ / | H | \./ Home Run: 'Going All The Way', Sexual Intercourse --------------------------------------- c3-15. What's the average length and width penis? From: klaus@diku.dk (Klaus Ole Kristiansen) Date: 16 Sep 91 07:49:09 GMT According to the book Mandens Krop (which is translated from English, but does not give the original title) the average is 15cm and 90% are between 13 and 18cm. The records for a fully functional penis are 1.5 and 30cm. ----- Source: "Race Differences in Behaviour: A Review and Evolutionary Analysis" by J. Philippe Rushton, Dept. of Psychology, University of Western Ontario, London, Ontario, Canada N6A 5C2 in "Journal of Personality and Individual Differences" Vol. 9, No. 6, 1009-1024, 1988. According to a paper by J. Philippe Rushton, the average size for erect penises is: Group Length Diameter Orientals 4 - 5.5" 1.25" Caucasians 5.5 - 6" 1.3 - 1.6" Blacks 6.25 - 8" 2" Clitoral lengths: Europeans 1.2" Africans 2". Xref: bloom-picayune.mit.edu alt.sex:103546 news.answers:5204 Newsgroups: alt.sex,news.answers Path: bloom-picayune.mit.edu!enterpoop.mit.edu!thunder.mcrcim.mcgill.edu!homer.cs.mcgill.ca!superdj From: superdj@cs.mcgill.ca (David JOHNSON) Subject: [alt.sex] FAQ (3/4) Message-ID: Followup-To: alt.sex Summary: frequently asked questions for alt.sex Originator: superdj@binkley.cs.mcgill.ca Keywords: Parts c3-16 to c4-3 Sender: news@cs.mcgill.ca (Netnews Administrator) Organization: SOCS - Mcgill University, Montreal, Canada Date: Tue, 12 Jan 1993 01:35:50 GMT Approved: news-answers-request@MIT.Edu Expires: Wed, 10 Feb 1993 00:00:00 GMT Lines: 1177 Archive-name: alt-sex/faq/part3 Last-modified: 1 Jan 1993 --------------------------------------- c3-16. What can one do about premature ejaculation? From "Human Sexuality" a brief edition by James Leslie McCary. D. Van Nostrand Company, Copyright 1973, ISBN 0-442-25236-6 The Treatment of Premature Ejaculation Given the cooperation of his lover, a man can train himself (except when the cause is purely physical) to withhold orgasm until both want it to happen. The main enemy is the fear and anxiety engendered in the man by previous failures. Once he gains confidence in his "staying power" and accepts the fact that all men face the problem at one time or another, the battle is half won. To assist him toward confidence in his abilities, several routes can be taken. Some counsellors recommend that a local anesthetic (for example, Nupercainal) be applied to the penile glans--care being taken not to smear any of the ointment on the woman's vulva--a few minutes before the beginning of intercourse. The assumption is that the deadening effect will decrease the sensitivity of the penis and delay ejaculation. Others prescribe the wearing of one or more condoms to reduce the stimulation generated by the friction of intercourse and the warmth and moisture within the vagina. Since muscular tension is a notorious catalyst in ejaculation, premature ejaculation may be prevented by the man's lying beneath the woman and thus taking a more passive role in coitus. (Sexual intercourse in the cramped confines of an automobile is unsatisfactory for many reasons, one of which is that it often creates muscular tension that terminates in early ejaculation.) Some men also find that taking a drink just before coitus helps, since alcohol is a deterrent in all physiological functioning. Other men claim similar success through concentrating on singularly unsexy thoughts, such as their income tax payments. (It is suggested, however, that these men take care not to let their partners know of their diversionary thoughts, lest they be dumped from the bed before ejaculation, premature or otherwise!) Having an orgasm and, after a short rest, attaining another erection often permit a man to experience a more prolonged act of coitus the second time. Some men masturbate shortly before they expect to have sexual intercourse; because their sex drive will thereby be decreased, they can then prolong intercourse later. The technique of delaying the man's orgasm can be learned, and probably the best method is one requiring the cooperation of both the man and his sex partner. The best chance of success lies in both partners' consulting a psychotherapist who will, first of all, assure the couple that premature or early ejaculation is a reversible phenomenon. The couple will then be instructed in the somewhat complicated technique of bringing about the reversal of premature ejaculation. The technique requires that the woman manually stimulate her partners' genitals until the point that he feels the very earliest signs of "ejaculatory inevitability." (This is the stage of a man's orgasmic experience at which he feels ejaculation of seminal fluid coming, and can no longer control it.) At that moment he signal the woman with such a pre-agreed word as "now", and she immediately ceases her massage of the penis. She then quickly squeezes its glans, or head, by placing her thumb on the frenulum (on the lower surface of the glans) and two fingers on the top of the glans, applying rather strong pressure for 3 or 4 seconds. The pressure will be uncomfortable enough to cause the man to lose the urge to ejaculate. Such "training sessions" should continue for 15 to 20 minutes, with alternating periods of sexual stimulation and squeezing. In later sessions, the man inserts his penis in the woman's vagina as she sits astride him until he senses impending orgasm, at which point he withdraws and she once more squeezes the penis to stop ejaculation. Use of these techniques is continued in further sexual encounters until, progressively, the man is capable of prolonged sexual intercourse, in any position, without ejaculating sooner than he wishes. Two notes of caution should be sounded to those using this technique. First, the technique will be unavailing if the man himself applies the pressure to his penis; and, second, the couple must not treat this newfound sexual skill as a game and overdo it. If the technique is overused, the man may eventually find that he has become insensitive to the stimulation and unable to respond to it. He may then develop new fears, this time about his potency, and risk developing secondary impotence. The guidance of a therapist is strongly recommended in the treatment of premature ejaculation to prevent such secondary problems. Masters and Johnson report a 97.8% success rate in the treatment of premature ejaculation. In any discussion of premature ejaculation, a word of caution must be injected. It is important to understand that at any one time or another almost every man has experienced ejaculation more swiftly than he or his partner would have liked. The essential thing is that the man not became anxious over possible future failures. Otherwise what is a normal, situational occurrence may become a chronic problem. --------------------------------------- c3-17. Is it possible for men to be multi-orgasmic? From: sawyer@hubble..westford.ccur.com (George Sawyer) Keywords: NEMO, Taoist Yoga, Sexual techniques Message-ID: <62486@masscomp.westford.ccur.com> Date: 4 Nov 91 16:49:14 GMT The following is a modified repost of my answer to "Postie's query" I study and teach Taoist esoteric yoga, and among the practices are sexual techniques which are VERY EFFECTIVE. There are solo techniques, and partner techniques. They require ongoing practice and, for men, realistically speaking, the partner techniques require a practising partner. A basic concept is that you can have an orgasm without ejaculating. Since ejaculation takes you through the refractory period & etc. cycle as well as emptying your fluid level, it tends to limit activity. Remove this constraint and you can go on as long as you want. (Have as many orgasms as you want). When you get close to the point of ejaculatory inevitability, you perform the techniques, which pull the sexual energy out of your testes / prostate up to your brain & compress the prostate causing partial loss of erection & subsiding of prostate. When the energy moves upward, you have an non-ejaculatory orgasm. The only way I can describe the orgasm experience is to compare it to some types of psychedelic drug experiences - except that you are in control and can stop immediately if you want. The more you practice, the longer and stronger the effects are. An orgasm of 5 to 10 minutes is "quite easy" and you can become able to have one of more than an hour with "determined practice". About an hour twenty minutes is my personal best (from solo practice at that) and I made it stop because I was getting too high. You tend to rest for a few or several minutes after each orgasm, being with your partner, and then optionally doing it again. Use lots of lubricant. There are different levels of orgasm, the initial one being a "senses" orgasm, in which you experience amplified pleasure from all your senses simultaneously. Since this includes touch, it is a bodywide experience. An "unexpected" benefit for men is that you will always have more energy after sex than before, thus dramatically reducing the "roll off and snore" syndrome. Also, after sex you will feel much closer to your partner and much more connected than prior. Many people have intense experiences of total connection and submersion into each other. It is also a First Class system for being celibate. Completely eliminates wet dreams, and gives you a fair amount of choice about whether to allow yourself to become aroused or not. Over the long term you develop some degree of control over your sexual desire in general. Feels great (even the non-aroused solo practice), and doesn't require "struggle and effort". The non-aroused solo practices are being done by individuals in many Christian monasteries & nunneries in Europe. Downsides. NOT TO BE IGNORED For men, it only really works if your partner practices too. Otherwise they get BORED watching you have extended orgasms while they wait. Initially, it is QUITE DIFFICULT not to ejaculate, and you will need cooperation from your partner at the WORST possible times - "I need to stop NOW!". It does not work well with promiscuity. It takes time to learn - I'll say an average of 6 months to beginning of competence and control, and requires 15min to 30min per day of various meditative practices. Realistically, most people don't stick to it long enough to be able to do it. Success rate among persistent people is very high, and the practices are not difficult. Some women find it really weird if you don't ejaculate, and you can really fuck up your relationship/marriage if you don't take care of your significant other first and foremost. That is far more important than mastery of sex techniques. These techniques are not part of a religion, no Deities to believe in, no statues, none of that. The techniques are described quite clearly in: "Taoist Secrets of Love: Cultivating Male sexual energy" (men's) "Healing Love thru the Tao: Cultivating Female sexual energy" (women's) Both are written by Mantak and Manewan Chia, and widely available at New Age bookstores. The pre-requisite is: "Awakening Healing Energy Thru the Tao" Most people find these reference books a bit much, and take one day courses. There are about 70 instructors in the USA, you can find the nearest one by calling the Healing Tao centre @ (516) 367-2701. Classes are about $85, and there is a pre-requisite course "The Microcosmic Orbit" which is also about $85. DO NOT IGNORE THE SAFETY POINTS IN THE BOOKS Happy practice! --------------------------------------- c3-18. What are Kegel exercises? How can one increase the force of ejaculation? From: sesharp@happy.colorado.edu Message-ID: <1991Oct5.231811.1@happy.colorado.edu> Date: 6 Oct 91 05:18:11 GMT Kegel exercises (pronounced "Kay-gill", in case you ever actually have a conversation about them) were invented to give women better bladder control. They have a number of useful advantages in sex. In women, they can help tighten the vagina, particularly after childbirth. The muscles can also be used deliberately during intercourse to stimulate her partner. They have a variety of uses for men. As I already mentioned, they strengthen the muscles used in seminal retention, making that technique more effective. They can make ejaculation more powerful. This may increase male enjoyment somewhat and female enjoyment if she is sensitive to it. Deliberate twitches during intercourse are also useful for males. Knowing how to force relaxation of the muscles can help maintain control and prevent premature ejaculation, as well as relieving the muscle cramps that can occur from too many ejaculations in succession. For females: My recollection of the exercise regimen taken from the older ESO book is as follows. First you have to identify the PC muscles and get them under conscious control. Starting and stopping urination is one method. Inserting a finger into the vagina to feel the contractions or watching the movement of the erect penis is another. Once it is under control, there are three kinds of exercises. The first is to clench the muscle and hold it for two seconds before releasing it. The second is to bear down as though constipated, using the abdominal muscles to force the PC muscles to relax. I find that alternating reps of these two works well. The third exercise is a fast twitch of the muscle, with repetitions as close together as possible, similar to orgasmic contractions. An initial set of exercises consists of 10 repetitions of each exercise. Five sets should be performed in a day. As strength improves, the number of repetitions in a set is increased. Around 30 repetitions in a set is suggested as a good number for retaining good muscle tone. The exercises are unobtrusive and can be performed almost anywhere. For males: Kegel exercises might indeed help with [increasing the force of ejaculation]. Here is how they are performed by males. First you have to learn to consciously control the muscles. One way of doing this is to use them to stop and start urination repeatedly. When you have an erection, contracting them causes it to move, making them easy to identify. Once you have the muscles identified, there are three types of exercises to do: 1) try contracting the muscles and holding them that way for a slow count of ten. You may not be able to last that long at first, but that is why you are exercising. 2) force them to relax by bearing down as though you were constipated and trying to force a bowel movement. 3) twitch (contract and release) the muscles as fast as you can ten times in a row. I find that it works well to alternate each of the first type with one of the second type. I don't recall how many of these are recommended. Something like ten of each to start, eventually working up to a hundred. In addition to the possibility of increasing the force of ejaculation, these may increase the number of contractions and the total enjoyment. The same muscles can also be used to reduce the amount of semen in an ejaculation by contracting them as hard as possible during it. This leaves a less than satisfied feeling, usually accompanied by an urgent desire for another orgasm 10 to 20 minutes later. This can be useful if your partner wants more sex than you do. Supposedly, increasing the strength of the muscles can increase this effect to allow quite a few orgasms in a row. --------------------------------------- c3-19. What are some good positions to try out? The Teachings of Kama Sutra: (See Appendix 3. The list is long enough to warrant its own section.) From the net (* indicates beginning of a new post): * Both are variations of the missionary position and can be done with either person on top: 1) Instead of the usual man's legs inside the woman's legs, have the man place one leg _outside_ the woman's legs. The allows a "sideways" penetration which makes my SO happy. 2) Place _both_ man's legs outside the woman's legs. This causes inward pressure on the vagina and clitoris and tightens the vagina. We both like this very much :) Note: If the woman is on top you must be careful not to crush the man's testicles :( * Have her lay on her side, bottom leg straight and top leg bent at the knee, which is in the air. You approach her, sitting up, straddling her bottom leg and enter her this way. This allows for *deep* entry which your SO may or may not like. * Penile thrusting from the right angle can pull the labia enough to give amazing clitoral stimulation. I usually find this happens most with rear-entry positions. * The first is with the woman on top, her legs straight and directly over the man's, pushing her weight backwards and forwards with her arms (above the man's shoulders); The other is basically the same thing with the man on top, sliding forward and backward. We also occasionally use a position with her legs inside mine, but on top. We both have to be pretty energetic for this, though. It seems to produce intense sensation, increased tightness and friction, etc., but we've never been able to make it lead to an orgasm for my partner. * Have the guy lie on his back legs spread wide. Have her mount with her back towards you. Now, with your thigh between her legs bend your knee slightly, this way she can bounce her clit on your thigh with each stroke. With your leg you can control how much she gets... straighten out your leg and she has to go down further to get the same stimulation. Guess it works well for me 'cause of my 18" thighs. ;) * A recent x-SO of mine had a favourite position, and I was wondering if other women enjoy this also. I would enter her from behind (just like doggy style), then while I was fully inserted she would lie down with me on top of her. We would both place our hands underneath her (just above where I was inserted. Then she would wiggle almost methodically. I assume this put great pressure on the clitoris. However after a short time she would orgasm and even sometimes multiple. * My ex-SO much preferred doggy style. She indicated that that was the right level of penetration. What is the position called that has man on top, woman with legs up so far that her knees are practically at her ears? My ex-SO did not like that, she said penetration was too deep. Same thing with her on top, but sitting up, making her body at right angles to mine. Also, she says that doggy style caused some stimulation of the clitoral and pudendal region that wasn't there in other positions, presumably because of the movement of tissues around the outside of the vagina during intercourse. Upside-down position: * That question on the purity test refers to (I believe) the people being opposite - ie one standing upright and one standing on their hands or head. This is a fun one, but you have to be careful that you don't stand up too quickly afterwards if you have been upside down or you could possibly pass out. OR * Have her sitting on the edge of the bed, facing away from the edge, on your lap. Lean over forwards, holding on to a handy dresser. She does a handstand, and you hold yourself up with one hand and hold both of you together with the other. Good for some giggles. * We prefer it with the man on his back, with lots of pillows under his rear end, propping him up. I then mount directly on top, one leg between his and the other between his leg and arm, i.e. I am at a 90 angle with him, sort of squatting, at least initially :-) If I then lean forward and move up and down and around, the combination of deep penetration and frontal rubbing of my clitoris on his leg makes for a very interesting combination. * standing up... my girlfriend's hanging on to my shoulders, and her legs definitely don't touch the ground. * My SO likes really deep penetration. She likes "doggie- style" but she prefers variations of "in the buck" (legs over the man's shoulders to provide deeper penetration.) Actually, as long as you get your arms under her knees it provides the same effect -- some women, my SO included, find it extremely uncomfortable to have their knees pressed all the way up to their chest during intercourse and just putting your arms under her knees or legs will lift her rear up and arch her back, giving you a better angle to penetrate at. Also, since your arms are under her legs, you are supporting some of her weight, so she doesn't have to hold her own rear up for you. When we get into this position, I've found that she prefers a sort of rocking motion as opposed to a straight in-and-out thrusting (try bending your own legs so that your knees come up about even with her hips, then you'll be almost cradling her in your lap and if you rock back and forth you will stay inside and alternate between plunging deep and not- so- deep-- this has been the easiest way for me to bring her to orgasm). Another thing she likes is to get on top and face away from me. I'm living in a college apartment and I've got the bottom bunk and the bed above has bars under it. I can grab one of these bars and pull myself up into her, and if I go fast and hard enough, we can get the bed bouncing pretty good and she actually bounces up off of my penis and plunges back down onto it. She really enjoys this but it's tough for me to do it for very long. --------------------------------------- c3-20. What is the M-spot? From: (unknown) I don't know if the spot I'm talking about is really the "M-spot," or not. There's actually a *pair* of these "spots." You stimulate them from outside the body, unlike the G-spot, which you get at from inside the vagina. These "M-spots" are on both men and women! They're not easy to find, and you've got to already be somewhat sexually aroused, I think, or it won't feel like anything. I think you probably also have to be ticklish, but maybe not. Stand up. Take your shirt and pants off. Put your hands on your hips. Now, feel how your hands are resting on a big "shelf" of bone? That's your pelvic bone. Grip that bone, and get a feel for the shape of it in that area. Now, concentrate on where the tips of your fingers are. Feel around that area. Relax your stomach muscles completely. (Try sitting down if it helps you relax that area.) If you have big hands, or a small waist, your fingertips are probably already on "the spots." Otherwise, move your hands forward, around towards the front of you a little bit, until you find the edge of that bone, on both sides. Now reach around that ridge of bone, pressing in on the sides of your tummy. Dig in with your fingertips. That's it! They're *right* on the edge of that bone, off the insides of it, not off the top of it. Your fingertips should be somewhere just below and to the sides of your belly-button. I can't describe it any better than that. It's probably easier to find if your partner does the searching, instead. If you look for the spots yourself, you could be pressing right in them and not know it, because it's like trying to tickle yourself -- it just doesn't work. Get naked with your partner, do some normal foreplay for a while, and get to where you're really ready for sex. Then have your partner stand behind you, and have him/her put their hands on your hips, as if you were, then proceed as given above. If they push and poke around in that area long enough, they're bound to find the spots. They might end up just tickling you to death, though. :-) (If it tickles, they're not pressing hard enough.) When they do find your M-spots, you will KNOW IT. You will feel a fire light up inside you. Within moments, you will want to turn around and kiss your partner so hard they suffocate. It is VERY intense. It's kind of uncomfortable, at first, and you can't take it for very long. If you're SO is "moving too slow" during foreplay, go for these spots. Things will speed up REAL fast. Good luck... Sorc Re: M-spot I've experienced something like this, although she (my girlfriend at the time, not a prostitute :-) touched a spot to either side of the navel, not directly below it. 1 - 2 inches down is about right, but then 2 - 3 inches over. It's right on the inside of the pelvic bone. If you're wearing jeans, and you casually hang your thumbs over those first two belt loops, the tips of your thumbs are right there. This wasn't just a "male" thing -- it worked on her, too. It's just ticklish if you do it too lightly, but press a little more firmly, and it's *very* intense. It's not really orgasm-inducing, but it turns light arousal into high arousal *really* fast. Get ready for your partner to *tackle* you if you do this right. Use several fingers and kind of "push in" on it, like you're kneading dough with your fingers. So, I don't know if this is the "M-spot," but it's definitely some kind of spot. :-) And it was great for warming up, but I don't know what it'd be like having it stimulated during actual intercourse. If she was on top, so the guy was relatively stationary, and she did that "kneading" while "riding"... hm... I'll put that on my list of things to try. :-) --------------------------------------- c3-21. What are blue balls? From: markley@grad1.cis.upenn.edu (Jim Markley) Blue Balls is a real condition! The "correct" term for blue balls is epididymitis, which is an inflammation of the epididymis. So what is an epididymis, you ask? Well from the library dictionary -- an elongated mass at the back of the testis composed chiefly of the greatly convoluted efferent tubes of that organ. In simple terms blue balls most commonly occurs when the epididymis get blocked up when the sperm leave the testis but not the penis. The "efferent tubes" are the conduit for the sperm from the testis to the urethra. When they get blocked you get pain. Why blue balls and not "swollen balls," well maybe the connotation is that you balls have the "blues", or maybe its because with all that swelling some of the blood flow is restricted enough to cause some blueing of the area because of pooling blood. ------------------------------------ c3-22. Is spanish fly dangerous? From: japlady@casbah.acns.nwu.edu (Rebecca Radnor) Subject: Re: Aphrodisiacs??? does really work??? There is this great show on CNBC called steals and deals that recently did a week on sex related stuff. They said that most of the spanish fly stuff that is sold is basically sugar water. The real machoy is illegal, and an overdose can be lethal. (I think they said it will give you a permanent hard-on that can develop gangrene and need to be surgically amputated, but I'm not sure.) There are some places that are selling it, but on the show they said that the risks are far to high compared to the benefits. From: gwh0621@Msu.oscs.montana.edu (The Bedroom Commando) Subject: Spanish Fly Spanish Fly has been used for almost a century that I am aware of along the Mexican-American Border by the Cattle Industry for breeding purposes. It has not, nor was it EVER intended for use by males... it was administered to cows orally... for the purpose of procreation (albeit heightened somewhat) of a new line of calves. Spanish fly is a powder of ground up wings of the CANTHARIS VESICATORIA beetle of the Southwest desert. As a child, I have had these light brown 1/2 inch long beetles alight upon my skin, and the noticeable resultant 'burn' was the same that one would receive if a drop of sulphuric acid had been placed there! One can find these beetles attracted to the lights around service stations and truck stops in the Southwest and many tourists leave, taking with them, the telltale burn mark of the Cantharide beetle every summer. Its use in the industry has been long discontinued in the US, but can still be found among the peon ranchers of Northern Mexico. One other thing, it is highly poisonous if taken internally. Much of this information can also be found in the "Taber's Cyclopedic Medical Dictionary"... Don't be misled that I'm on Net in Montana... I was born and raised on a ranch in the Sonoran-Desert Mountains of Southeast Arizona. ------------------------------------ c3-23. Is it possible to get pregnant from anal sex? From: elf@halcyon.com (Elf Sternberg) Subject: simple question It is not *technically* possible to get pregnant from anal sex; there is no way for semen to get from the rectal tract to the vaginal tract. However, anal sex is still not a very good method of birth control. Semen leaking from the anus after intercourse may drip across the perineum (the short stretch of skin separating vulva and anus) and cause what is known as a 'splash' conception. The failure rate for this is surprisingly high! 8% of couples of who use anal sex as a method of birth control have babies each year. ------------------------------------ c3-24. Should I buy a vibrator? What kind of vibrators are there? Do vibrators 'desensitize' women? Can I be replaced by a vibrator? From: elf@halcyon.com (Elf Sternberg) Vibrators come in three distinct 'types'. Many women find satisfaction in this most common (and more often thought of), the classic penis-shaped, battery powered shaft of plastic. These suffer, however, from a lack of real power and inconvenient battery death. The second type of vibrator, the 'wand' vibrator, overcomes these problems with wall current. These large, club-shaped vibrators provide LOTS of stimulation, and wall current provides all the power you could ask for, but the designers apparently intended for people not to view these things as sex toys, but as "personal massagers," and the ungainliness of these things reflects that. The third type of vibrator, the 'handle' type, looks vaguely like a small hairdryer with a small, perpendicular shaft out of the thicker end to accommodate a variety of soft plastic or latex heads. The best of all possible worlds, these vibrators never die, fit in one hand, and can provide a variety of sensations. Shower Massagers make a wonderful variation on the classic vibrator, and if you enjoy the warmth and wetness of the tub, you probably want to consider investing in a shower massager. Like the wand and handle vibrators, shower massagers have a host of uses beyond masturbation, too! BUYING A VIBRATOR: Don't make buying a vibrator a traumatizing experience. If you MUST have one of those penis-shaped things, most lingerie shops carry them. But most department stores sell the 'wand' or 'handle' vibrators under the guise of "personal massagers," and buying one from reputable department stores means a warranty, you can return it if unsatisfied, and it won't have "Doc Johnson's Love Machine" emblazoned across it in pink letters in case mother comes to visit. CAVEAT: Before using any mechanical vibrator, apply lubrication! Your lover probably does not rank friction burns in the same category as love bites. Use a water-based lubricant, such as K-Y (always recommended), Aegis, or Wet. CAVEAT: Do not purchase a vibrator specifically designed to deliver heat to the body as a sexual device. If they work on muscles, great, but don't use them on your cunts and cocks. I know of at least one case where a woman burned herself with one of these things because her climaxes were so strong she didn't notice how much the heater had burned her. RECOMMENDATION: I prefer the 'handle' type myself, with the Con-Air and the Oster "personal massagers" as my all-time favourites. Oster makes a 'heating' type of vibrator, as well, so be careful when you buy. ADVICE: Nobody knows how to masturbate YOU better than you do, and the same rule applies to everybody else. Don't use a vibrator on someone else until you've watched them use it on themselves, preferably several times. Men, especially, should watch how their girlfriends/ wives use the vibrator alone before taking the reins. No mechanical piece of plastic can replace the love and affection of a human being; try to see the vibrator as just another toy, and not as competition. Some women do experience a temporary 'desensitization' after the effects of a powerful vibrator, but put the toy away for a week and sensitivity returns to normal. Vibrators do not cause long-term desensitization. Should you buy a vibrator? That's a decision only you can make; I personally have bought two for my wife, and a shower massage, and they've made our sex life a whole lot better, not worse. As always, your mileage may vary. ================================================================= Category 4. SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASES A quick table of current treatment effectiveness: Gonorrhea: curable Syphilis: curable in early stages Herpes: incurable, but effective treatment available. HPV: incurable, but treatment available. Chlamydia: curable Lice: curable AIDS: incurable, but some treatment available. Hepatitis B: incurable, but vaccine available. c4-1. How is the AIDS virus transmitted? and what does a HIV test show? (From: Travis Lee Winfrey ) "AIDS is caused by the Human Immuno-deficiency Virus (HIV). In a person infected with HIV, the virus can be present in the body's semen, blood, and breast milk. It can also be present, in much smaller quantities, in vaginal secretion, saliva, and tears. The AIDS virus can be transmitted via any of these fluids, but only the first two -- semen and blood -- are likely to be involved. Anal sex is the most commonly _perceived_ method of transfer, but vaginal sex has been repeatedly shown to transmit HIV. Men are less likely than women to be infected through vaginal sex, but they have, in fact, been infected this way. Cunnilingus and fellatio have also been established as capable of transmitting the virus. Sexual activities, not sexual orientation, transmit the virus. HIV cannot be passed on through casual contact, hugging, hand- shaking, touching the sweat of an infected person, or mosquito bites. HIV can pass through non-latex or "natural" condoms, such as Fourex Lambskin condoms. HIV transmission has nothing whatever to do with the presence of feces in anal sex. The HIV test shows the presence of antibodies to HIV. It does not show the presence of the virus: the body first has to develop antibodies, which normally takes about six weeks. Hence, a positive result means that someone has antibodies and could possibly develop AIDS in the future. A negative result means that someone does not have antibodies _at the moment_. If there is a reason to think that exposure was more recent than six weeks, then a test taken immediately can only serve as a baseline to compare against a test taken later. Within six months of HIV infection, 99% of the population will test positive. No one should be tested for HIV without first obtaining counselling and ensuring _beforehand_ support from his or her family or friends. The following numbers may be of use. AIDS Hotline (800) 342-2437 AIDS Information Clearing House (800) 458-5231 9-7 EST CDC AIDS Ethnicity, Age recording (404) 330-3020 CDC AIDS Transmission mode recording (404) 330-3021 CDC AIDS Top 10, Projections recording (404) 330-3022 --------------------------------------- c4-2. What is HPV (human papilloma virus)? Treatment? *** The writer raises several good questions, which are still *** *** unanswered. Any help will be greatly appreciated. *** From: loredich@miavx3.mid.muohio.edu (Loredich) Subject: HPV and genital warts: a dossier Message-ID: <427.294a72cb@miavx3.mid.muohio.edu> Date: 15 Dec 91 02:08:27 GMT HPV (human papilloma virus) is, like any virus, resistant to antibiotic therapy. Once a human is infected with the virus, there is no known treatment. HPV can cause warts to appear on the genitals, on the head of the penis in men, and both internally and externally in women. These warts have been inconclusively linked to cervical cancer in women. There is no reliable examination or culture that will reveal the presence of the virus unless warts have already developed, as far as I understand it. Is there anyone with differing information? Is it possible to diagnose HPV without the actual appearance of warts? The diagnostic procedure for women is called a colposcopy, which involves an examination of the cervix with a microscope-like device. The procedure for men involves an application of a solution to the penis which turns the warts white, making them easily visible. A similar examination for women involves the application of white vinegar, which makes the woman smell like a salad for several days afterward. The virus is transmissible through sexual contact. However, there seems to be some disagreement over the likelihood of transmission when no warts are present. The gurus at Planned Parenthood swear that the virus is transmissible at any time, with or without warts. But several letters I received declared that transmission is highly unlikely unless warts are present: apparently, the virus is not close enough to the surface of the skin to cause damage if no warts are visible. The jury is still out on this one. Anyone know for sure? Once the warts appear, they are removed either by freezing, burning, or laser surgery (which sounds like the least unpleasant option). Now, the virus itself does not go away, I was told, but the warts do once they are removed. Do they reappear? The consensus seems to be that they generally do not. One woman who wrote to me declared that she had seen no warts in seven years. Has anyone had recurring warts? No real word on whether oral sex is a bad idea. When the warts are present, I can't imagine that it would be too terribly pleasant, but wartlessly, is there a high risk of transmission? Again, Planned Parenthood shrieked in dismay and issued a stern "NO!" when I asked, but I am not quite sure how reliable their information has been. Does anyone know about this? Plenty of readers have suggested that oral sex be performed with a condom, but I am also concerned with being the receptive partner in this. Can oral sex be safely performed WITHOUT a condom or dental dam? Response from (anonymous) The serotypes of this virus that commonly cause venereal warts are associated with cervical cancer. Other serotypes of the virus have been linked to other malignancies. As to transmission of HPV in the absence of visible warts, even if no microscopic warts are present, the mechanical trauma of sex is known to cause at least microscopic damage to the skin/mucosa of the genitals that may provide a means of transmission of this virus. The presence of visible warts only increases the likelihood of such a transmission occurring in the absence of adequate barriers to transmission. HPV can be detected in a PAP smear as cellular atypia, but I believe that a PAP smear has a low sensitivity for detecting HPV. --------------------------------------- c4-3. The major sexually transmitted disease (STDs) and their symptoms (Gonorrhea, Syphilis, Genital Herpes, AIDS, Pubic Lice (Crabs), Nonspecific Urethritis (NSU), Hepatitis B are covered.) From: mf2x+@andrew.cmu.edu (Michael Raymond Feely) Date: 13 Oct 91 01:35:57 GMT All information is courtesy of "On Sex and Human Loving", Masters and Johnson Copyright 1985. All typos are mine, but sadly, this newsreader doesn't have a spell checker on it. Further info on the development times and the percentage of asymptomatic cases of AIDS would be appreciated... Gonorrhea --------- Transmission: Intercourse, fellatio, anal sex, cunnilingus, kissing (infrequently) Women run a roughly 50% chance of contracting the disease after one session of intercourse, men 20-25%. MALE Symptoms: Yellowish discharge from the penis. Painful, frequent urination. Symptoms develop from two to thirty days after infection. Roughly 10% of men have no symptoms. Later stages of the infection may move into the prostate, seminal vesicles, and epididymis, causing severe pain and fever. Untreated, gonorrhea can lead to sterility in a small minority of cases. UPDATE: Traditionally, gonorrhea in the male was thought to be a symptomatic disease as described above. More recently it has been recognized that a significant number of males have asymptomatic gonorrhea. As asymptomatic infections can lead to the same complications as symptomatic infections and can be transmitted in the same way, it is important for men to realize that an exposure needs to be investigated whether or not there are symptoms. Also, a complication of gonorrhea not mentioned above is septic arthritis (infected joint). While the infection itself is easy to treat, this can severely damage the involved joint (often the knee) leading to a permanent disability. FEMALE Symptoms: Under half of women with gonorrhea show no symptoms, or symptoms so mild they are commonly ignored. Early symptoms include increased vaginal discharge, irritation of the external genitals, pain or burning on urination and abnormal menstrual bleeding. Women who are untreated may develop severe complications. The infection will usually spread to the uterus, Fallopian tubes, and ovaries, causing Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (PID). PID, though not only caused by gonorrhea, is the most common cause of female infertility. Early symptoms of PID are lower abdominal pain, fever, nausea, vomiting, and pain during intercourse. Syphilis -------- Transmission: Nominally sexual contact, but can be transmitted by blood transfusion or from an infected pregnant woman to her fetus. Symptoms: PRIMARY STAGE: A chancre sore develops at the site of infection from two to four weeks after infection has occurred. The chancre is painless 75% of the time. The chancre starts as a dull red spot, turns into a pimple, which ulcerates, forming a round or oval sore with a red rim. The sore heals in 4-6 weeks - however, the infection is still present. The chancre is usually found on the genitals or anus, but can appear on any part of the skin. SECOND STAGE: One week to six months after the chancre heals. Pale red or pinkish rash appears (often on palms or soles) fever, sore throat, headaches, joint pains, poor appetite, weight loss, hair loss. Moist sores may appear around the genitals or anus and are highly infectious. Symptoms usually last three to six months, but can come and go. LATENT STAGE: No apparent symptoms, and the carrier is no longer contagious. However, the organism is insinuating itself into the host's tissues. 50 to 70 percent of carriers pass the rest of their lives without the disease leaving this stage. The reminder pass into Third Stage syphilis. THIRD STAGE: Serious heart problems, eye problems, brain and spinal cord damage, with a high probability of paralysis, insanity, blindness or death. From: (anonymous) While all of the symptoms mentioned are possible (as well as others), it usually manifests with a limited number of these symptoms at any one time (often just one). In the past, syphilis was known as the great imitator because it could resemble almost any known illness (It was said that "To know syphilis was to know medicine.") Modern diagnostic techniques now make this a much simpler disease to diagnose, especially in the early stages. The statement in the FAQ that later stages of syphilis are not curable is IMHO wrong. There is some controversy on this point in treating advanced neurosyphilis, but I believe this represents difficulties in evaluating the effectiveness of treatment in the short term in these patients. I believe patients who are not successfully treated represent treatment failures not incurable disease. Having said this, let me point out that damage by the disease prior to treatment is not reversible, although it is often treatable. Genital Herpes -------------- Transmission: Generally by sexual contact. Direct contact with infected genitals can cause transmission via intercourse, rubbing genitals together, oral genital contact, anal sex, or oral anal contact. In addition, normally protected areas of skin can become infected if there is a cut, rash, sore. Herpes viruses can be spread in some instances by kissing, if one participant has the infection sited in or near the mouth. Symptoms: Herpes is marked by clusters of small, painful blisters on the genitals. After a few days, the blisters burst, leaving small ulcers. In men, the blisters usually appear on the penis, but can appear in the urethra or rectum. In women, they usually appear on the labia, but can appear on the cervix and anal area. First outbreaks are accompanied by fever, headache, and muscle soreness for two or more consecutive days in 39% of men and 68% of women. Other relatively common symptoms include painful urination discharge from the urethra or vagina, and tender, swollen lymph nodes in the groin. These symptoms tend to disappear within two weeks. Aseptic meningitis occurs in 8 percent of cases, eye infections in 1% of cases, and infection of the cervix in 88% of infected women. Skin lesions last on average 16.5 days in men, 19.7 in women. Secondary symptoms are most prominent in the first four days and then gradually diminish. Recurrence: None in 10% of cases. Frequency for the remaining population is from once a month to once every few years. The majority of sufferers do not have repeat attacks after a few years. Most repeat attacks are less severe than the initial attack. AIDS (Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome) ----------------------------------------- Transmission: Sexual contact, sharing IV needles, blood transfusion (Note that blood is now routinely screened for HIV) Note also that the HIV virus is significantly less likely to be transmitted than the gonorrhea or syphilis bacteria. Symptoms: No single pattern exists. Most common symptoms are progressive, inexplicable weight loss, persistent fever, swollen lymph nodes, and reddish purple coin sized spots on the skin (These spots are Kaposi's sarcoma, a form of cancer) When symptoms appear, they may remain unchanged for months, or may be followed by any one of a number of opportunistic infections. Typically these include pneumocystis carinii, an unusual form of pneumonia, fungal infections, tuberculosis, and various herpes forms. Treatment may fend off these infections, however the typical course is for one overwhelming infection to follow another until the victim succumbs due to the immune system's failure to return to a normal state, and hence, the opportunistic infection's relative freedom to wreak havoc on the victim's systems. It is possible for AIDS to be asymptomatic for prolonged periods of time while still being contagious. On the significance of symptoms of HIV separate from infections: While most AIDS patients do eventually die of/with various opportunistic infections, the significance of the chronic wasting can not be ignored. In the early days of AIDS, there were patients that by current definitions clearly had AIDS, but were never classified as such since they died of the "dwindles" before acquiring an opportunistic infection that would have made that diagnosis. Also, there has been much discussion of the minimal time until HIV seroconversion. It should be noted that patients with advanced HIV disease can become "HIV negative" as they lose the ability to make antibodies to HIV (this does not represent an improvement in the condition). A final comment on HIV: the opportunistic infections encountered in HIV infection are generally acquired common environmental pathogens or acquired from the host themselves. This is why HIV wards do not serve to infect all occupants with all diseases present. Pubic Lice (Crabs) ------------------ Transmission: Nominally through sexual contact, however they may be picked up through use of sheets, towels or clothing used by an infected person. Symptoms: Intense itching, usually felt mostly at night. Some victims have no symptoms, others may develop an allergic rash. Nonspecific Urethritis (NSU) ---------------------------- (Most commonly - Chlamydia trachomatous and T. mycoplasma) Transmission: Some cases are allergic or chemical reactions, and are not transmitted per se. Others are through sexual contact. Symptoms: Similar to gonorrhea but usually milder. Urethral discharge is generally thin and clear. Some cases are asymptomatic. Also: This can also precipitate a condition called Reiter's syndrome in susceptible persons. The Facts on Hepatitis B ------------------------ What is Hepatitis B? Hepatitis B, a potentially deadly, sexually transmitted disease, is not selective about who it infects: anyone can get hepatitis B. Yet, even though it affects the lives of hundreds of thousands in the United States, most people know very little about this serious disease. The hepatitis B virus has been spreading rapidly in the United States, with 14 Americans dying each day from hepatitis B-related illnesses. Chances are you know at least one person with hepatitis B because one in 20 Americans has been infected with the virus. Why is Hepatitis B Called a Sexually Transmitted Disease? Hepatitis B is not commonly thought of as a sexually transmitted disease. The fact is that it is commonly spread through sex, just like AIDS, syphilis, herpes and gonorrhea. The number of Americans who have contracted hepatitis B through sex has almost doubled in the last decade. Who Can get Hepatitis B? Because it is extremely contagious--100 times more contagious than AIDS--anyone can get hepatitis B. But you are in even greater danger if: o you have had more than one sexual partner in the last six months o you have had unprotected sex (without a condom) o you or your partner have ever been diagnosed with a sexually transmitted disease (such as herpes, gonorrhea, syphilis, chlamydia, genital warts or AIDS) o you or your partner have had sexual contact with someone who has had hepatitis B, or someone who is in one of the categories listed above What Are the Symptoms? About half of those who get hepatitis B will suffer from an inflammation of the liver, called acute hepatitis. Many people with hepatitis B mistake the symptoms for other illnesses, such as the flu, while others are more seriously affected and may miss school or work for months. Some of the symptoms caused by hepatitis B are: o mild, flu-like illness o skin rashes and arthritis o nausea o vomiting o loss of appetite o malaise o abdominal pain o jaundice (yellowing of the eyes and skin) What Happens if I Get Hepatitis B? Those who become chronically infected with hepatitis B have substantially higher risk of developing liver cancer than the general population. But even if you don't get liver cancer, the effects of hepatitis B infection can be so severe that you may not be able to go to school or work for several months. Then there are those who don't even know they have hepatitis B. We call them the "silent carriers". This group of symptomless carriers can pass the disease on to countless others unknowingly (and may eventually get very ill themselves). NOTE: THERE IS NO KNOWN CURE FOR HEPATITIS B although there is a vaccine. Ask a physician for more information. After May 1, you can call 1-800-HEP-B-873 for referral to a physician near you who can answer questions. Because the transmission of different STDs are not independent, persons who acquire _any_ STD are at considerably greater risk (epidemiologically) of acquiring other STDs. Persons diagnosed with one STD should be examined for other STDs at that time (Multiple infections are possible!!!). Persons who have ever had a STD (except lice, "crabs") should be aware of whatever was done that led them to acquire that STD. It is now recommended that all children receive the vaccine. It has been shown to be effective and is administered in 3 doses. The current version is made using recombinant DNA techniques and does NOT carry the potential for infection with other diseases, as previous vaccines did. Currently, any adult with potential occupational exposure to HB are suggested to receive the vaccine (for example, health care workers, ambulance personnel). However, there is a movement towards vaccinating all individuals [as is economically possible] since the vaccine is very safe [no known serious adverse reactions] and HB can be potentially fatal. Xref: bloom-picayune.mit.edu alt.sex:103547 news.answers:5205 Newsgroups: alt.sex,news.answers Path: bloom-picayune.mit.edu!enterpoop.mit.edu!thunder.mcrcim.mcgill.edu!homer.cs.mcgill.ca!superdj From: superdj@cs.mcgill.ca (David JOHNSON) Subject: [alt.sex] FAQ (4/4) Message-ID: Followup-To: alt.sex Summary: frequently asked questions for alt.sex Originator: superdj@binkley.cs.mcgill.ca Keywords: Parts c4-4 to End Sender: news@cs.mcgill.ca (Netnews Administrator) Organization: SOCS - Mcgill University, Montreal, Canada Date: Tue, 12 Jan 1993 01:36:08 GMT Approved: news-answers-request@MIT.Edu Expires: Wed, 10 Feb 1993 00:00:00 GMT Lines: 1037 Archive-name: alt-sex/faq/part4 Last-modified: 1 Jan 1993 --------------------------------------- c4-4. What are venereal warts? Treatment? From: masandy@ubvmsb.cc.buffalo.edu Venereal warts: incurable, but treatable It's unfortunate that these viral infections can't be cured and I don't even know if the treatment is sufficient, but I guess there's nothing that can be done about it. I would like to stress that unprotected sex with a new partner REGARDLESS of whether or not there are any signs of warts is strongly discouraged. There are a few treatments out there: liquid nitrogen, electro- cauterization, laser cauterization, topical creams and liquids. Liquid nitrogen: can be painful, but not from the treatment itself. In order for the warts to stop re-appearing, your body must first recognize the problem and form antibodies against it. As long as the antibodies keep the virus from advancing, they will be less likely to show up. Also, this prevents the virus from spreading SOMEWHAT. It's like a flu virus. If no physical symptoms show up, you are unlikely to spread it. However, like the flu, if symptoms do occur and warts show up, it shows that your body's defenses have let down their guard temporarily and let that virus advance. To get your immune system to concentrate on the area, you must first damage the skin in some way, such as liquid nitrogen. This is the painful part: in addition to freezing the warts, you must burn the surrounding skin area to get your T-cells to concentrate on the area. This helps your body to control the virus. Electrocauterization: same thing, but instead of freezing them, it burns them off electrically and cauterizes ("seals") the skin so that no open wounds are present. First the immediate infected area is numbed (small needle prick and pain is over) and then they are burned off. Pretty simple and more preferable to liquid nitrogen. Laser: haven't heard much about this, but I would assume that it is more costly than electro or liquid nitro. Probably uses the same technique as electro, but with more precision and less pain. Topical creams: Painless, greaseless, topical creams can be helpful for some cases. EFUDEX 5% is probably at the top of the treatment cream list at this time. Supposedly works within 1 month and acts to kill the foreign tissue. I don't know if the rate of recurrence is higher for creams or cauterization, but that rate is definitely present and depends on how well your body first reacts to the virus. If more antibodies are made and you don't have much stress in your life, you should be ok. More stress on the body or other illnesses can cause the virus to pop right back up again. You only have one immune system, and your body is host to many viruses. It's difficult to fight all of them at the same time. Liquids: In addition to the cream mentioned above, there are liquids that can be injected into the area which act as acids and dissolve the warts. The cream mentioned above is recommended for warts inside the urethra or vagina where you can still see them. A cystoscopy (lighted microscope inserted into the urethra) is recommended to make sure there are no others deeper inside. There are liquids for getting at these deeper- located warts. Podophyllin (po-DAH-fill-in) is usually injected into the urethra and basically works to make the virus regress and dissolve the existing warts. Trichloroacetic acid is much much more painful and powerful in cases of urethral blockage. Not recommended for general treatment. Thiotepa (thi-uh-TEE-puh) is another one used for basically the same purpose. These, however, are only used where the warts can't be seen, so after the cystoscopy, your doctor will probably recommend one of these anyways. As I said, there is no cure; the virus is still present even though there may be no physical signs. I'm still not sure as to the general scope of the rates of recurrence, but as far as I know, there is definitely a possibility of recurrence. Consult a UROLOGIST at first signs of any infections, don't wait for the symptoms to go away. Almost every STD has symptoms that eventually fade out, but that doesn't mean that your body has conquered it. It may come back in other areas and cause significant problems. ================================================================= Category 5. CONTRACEPTION c5-1. What are the various methods of contraception? and their effectiveness rates? and their associated risks if any? From: c31002wb@jezebel.wustl.edu (William Burris) Message-ID: <1992Mar10.215138.11142@wuecl.wustl.edu> Date: Tue, 10 Mar 1992 21:51:38 GMT % of women experiencing an accidental pregnancy in the first year of use ---------------------------------------------------- Lowest Lowest Method Expected Typical Reported ----------------------------------------------------------------- Chance 85 85 43.1 Spermicides 3 21 0.0 Periodic abstinence 20 Calender 9 14.4 Ovulation Method 3 10.5 Symptothermal 2 12.6 Postovulation 1 2.0 Withdrawal 4 18 6.7 Cervical Cap 6 18 8.0 Sponge Parous women 9 28 27.7 Nulliparous women 6 18 13.9 Diaphragm 6 18 2.1 Condom 2 12 4.2 IUD Progestasert 2.0 3 1.9 Copper T 380A 0.8 3 0.5 Pill Combined 0.1 3 0.0 Progestogen only 0.5 3 1.1 Injectable progestogen DMPA 0.3 0.3 0.0 NET 0.4 0.4 0.0 Implants NORPLANT (6 capsules) 0.04 0.04 0.0 NORPLANT (2 rods) 0.03 0.03 0.0 Female sterilization 0.2 0.4 0.0 Male sterilization 0.1 0.15 0.0 Associated Risk statistics Activity Chance of Death in a Year ----------------------------------------------------------------- Risks for men and women of all ages who participate in: Motorcycling 1 in 1,000 Automobile driving 1 in 6,000 Power boating 1 in 6,000 Rock climbing 1 in 7,500 Playing football 1 in 25,000 Canoeing 1 in 100,000 Risks for women aged 15 to 44 years: Using Tampons 1 in 350,000 Having sexual intercourse (PID) 1 in 50,000 Preventing pregnancy: Using birth control pills nonsmoker 1 in 63,000 smoker 1 in 16,000 Using IUDs 1 in 100,000 Using diaphragm, condom or spermicide NONE Using fertility awareness methods NONE Undergoing sterilization: Laparoscopic tubal ligation 1 in 67,000 Hysterectomy 1 in 1,600 Vasectomy 1 in 300,000 Continuing pregnancy 1 in 14,300 Terminating Pregnancy: Illegal abortion 1 in 3,000 Legal abortion Before 9 weeks 1 in 500,000 Between 9-12 weeks 1 in 67,000 Between 13-15 weeks 1 in 23,000 After 15 weeks 1 in 8,700 ------------------------------------------- The source is the 1990-1992, 15th Revised Edition of Contraceptive Technology. Authored by too many doctors to cite. However, this book is used by millions of doctors around the world as an authority on contraception. Its authors gather their sources from data published by several different statistic gathering organizations (such as the Centres for Disease Control) and then compile and interpret it in their book. Happy Reading. ----- From: mf2x+@andrew.cmu.edu (Michael Raymond Feely) Date: 1 Oct 91 20:52:32 GMT Nominally, the failure rates for contraceptive methods are expressed as "number of pregnancies per one hundred user couples per year" Thus of one hundred couples who used condoms as a birth control method, two experienced unwanted pregnancies in one year. Below are reproduced the failure rates for typical contraceptive methods. My source for this is the tome "Sex A User's Manual" published by The Diagram Group. (Berkeley Publishing Group, New York c 1981) The list of credited contributors includes Toni Bellefield, Medical Information Officer, Family Planning Information Service, and D.B. Garrioch, MD, MRCOG, Senior Registrar in Gynecology, St. Thomas' Hospital, London. Actual failure rate - number of pregnancies per 100 couples per year of use, includes conception due to user's failing to use the method properly, as well as through method failures. Theoretical failure rate - number of pregnancies expected per 100 couples per year of use, allowing only for failure of the method to function when used properly. Condoms breaking for no apparent reason, etc, are method failures. I = less than 1 X = expected failure rate, one X per pregnancy x = actual failure rate minus expected rate, one x per pregnancy I Tubal Ligation (E 0.04/A 0.04) I Vasectomy (E 0.15/A 0.15) XXXxx IUD (E 1-3/A 5) Ixxxxxxxxxx Combined Pill (E 1-1.5/A 5-10) Ixxxxxxxxxx Minipill (E 1-1.5/A5-10) XXXxxxxxxx Condoms (E 3/A 10) XXXxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Cap & Spermicide (E 3/A17) (Rates for diaphragm are probably somewhat lower) XXXXXXXxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rhythm (temp) (E 7/A 20) XXXXXXXXXXXXXxxxxxxxx Rhythm (calendar) (E 13 /A 21) XXxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rhythm (mucous) (E 2/A25) XXXxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Spermicides (E 3/A 20-25) XXXXXXXXXxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Withdrawal (E 9/A20-25) It is to be noted that this data is rather old, and therefore omits one crucial form of birth control currently available - the low dose pill. Low dose birth control pills are a more sophisticated development of the combined pill, and function in essentially the same way, but do not require as high an overall dose of hormones per month, thus reducing side effects considerably. Low dose pills may also be taken right up til menopause, whereas it is recommended that the combined or mini pills be discontinued around age 40-45. The rate I remember for "No birth control" was somewhere on the order of 80%, however, that is for a statistical sample over time, not for "one fuck". >I believe some women also have strong allergic reactions to >spermicides. I would (personally) say they are a poor choice. Independently, they are, but bear in mind that spermicides are absolutely necessary to the functioning of some forms of birth control - even a well fitted diaphragm is pretty much useless without spermicidal jelly. DIAPHRAGM --------- (from: elf@halcyon.com) Has a failure rate of 2% (i.e. out of 100 women who primarily use the diaphragm, two become pregnant). Always use spermicide; both partners _must_ learn how to place it properly. It has few associated risks; it cannot become 'lost' because the vagina is only a few inches long. Can 'slip' and press against the rectum; this can be uncomfortable. Also, some men can feel the diaphragm during intercourse. Some women have recurrent yeast infections when using the diaphragm. The average diaphragm costs about 20-30 dollars, but it must first be sized and fitted by a gynecologist, so there is the cost of a doctor's fee. Must be replaced every two years to ensure correct fit and product lifespan. A tube of Gynol II costs around 11 dollars and is good for 24 doses of spermicide. The major disadvantage to the diaphragm is that it must be used one of two ways; either it is inserted before any sort of sexual play, in which case the taste of spermicide can become an issue if the couple wishes to engage in oral sex, or is inserted after oral sex but before intercourse, which can be considered a major interruption of play and may lead to not using it all. (SOURCE: "The New Our Bodies, Ourselves" The Boston Women's Health Book Collective, 1984. Pgs 225-228.) A personal observation: Omaha and I rely on the diaphragm as our primary birth control. As mentioned, she does have recurrent yeast infection, but we both agree this is a minimal compared to the intense, suicidal depression that came when she mixed birth control pills and her epilepsy medication. We are both fond of oral sex, so we use the diaphragm in the latter way described in paragraph three. We have never failed to used it; insertion of the diaphragm has become a major part of our play, a way of saying "I love you, I care about you, I _will_ be responsible with your body" during lovemaking. The diaphragm, it _must_ be remembered, is _not_ an effective method of STD control; only a condom can do that. The diaphragm is a reproduction control method for primary partners only! c5-2. What kinds of condoms are there? (from: Steven Sharp, sesharp@happy.colorado.edu) This is a posting of information about types of condoms which are significantly larger or smaller than average. I got it out of a book called "The Condom Book" or something similarly imaginative. One thing that was apparent from reading through the descriptions was that advertising on size (or for that matter thickness or ribbing or whatever) is often misleading. A brand which is claimed to be smaller than average frequently isn't outside the normal variation. There may also be differences in size based on variations in manufacturing and these figures were probably based on single samples. Different size measurements for different styles of the same brand may indicate such variations or be an attempt to provide some size variation, in which case getting the precise style named is important. All measurements are flat and don't take into account elasticity, which might influence comfort when worn. Typical condom flat widths range from 2" to 2-1/8" (meaning two and one eighth, not two minus an eight). All the condoms listed here are both lubricated and reservoir ended. Company names are listed in parentheses. Extra words which may appear in the name on some packages are listed in square brackets. It is possible I've copied some numbers wrong (and other disclaimer noises). Slimmer condoms --------------- Bikini (Barnetts): slightly less than 2" by 7-1/4", packaged in that frustrating plastic wrapper [Sheik] Fetherlite (Schmid): 1-7/8" by 7-1/2" Hugger (Circle): 1-7/8" by 7-1/8" Slims (Circle): 1-7/8" by 7-3/4" Mentor (Mentor): 2" by 8", not smaller, but has adhesive inside to prevent slippage, rather expensive though Wider condoms ------------- Excita (Schmid): 2-1/4" by 8-1/4", Excita Extra has spermicide [Lifestyle] [Horizon] Nuda (Ansel): 2-5/8" head, 2-1/8" shaft, by 8-1/8" [Ramses] NuForm (Schmid): 2-1/2" upper, 2+" lower, by 8-1/4, has benzocaine anaesthetic Rough Rider (Ansel): 2-1/2" by 8" thick but doesn't block sensations, raised studs Sheik Ribbed (Schmid): 2-1/4", forgot to note length (Note wide variation in Sheik. Elite with spermicide and Lubricated (with benzocaine?) are both 2-1/8". Fetherlite is 1-7/8".) Trojan-Enz Lubricated (Carter-Wallace): 2-1/4" by 8" Longer condoms -------------- Man-form Lubricated (Protex): 2" by 8-3/4" long packaged in that frustrating plastic wrapper [Trojan] Naturalube (Carter-Wallace): 2" by 8-5/8" ================================================================= Category 6. Myths A. You can't get pregnant... 1. if it's the first time your having sex. 2. if she doesn't reach orgasm. 3. before she has her FIRST period. 4. doing it standing up. 5. douching with Coke (or any other soft drink) right afterwards. 6. if you piss afterwards. 7. from anal sex. B. Masturbation causes... 1. blindness. 2. hair to grow on your palms. C. No one ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, *ever*, EVER, *EVER* makes an irrelevant post to alt.sex. D. People read the FAQ file first, before asking the net about something. E. Alt.sex is a bboard read by only 10 000 people. F. Sex is evil. G. Women can't enjoy sex. ================================================================= Appendix 1. List of Contributors (NOTE: If you find something you've written which is not attributed properly, tell me!) The first contributor has to be Tony Chen. Thank you Tony. abb3w@fulton.seas.Virginia.EDU (Arthur Bernard Byrne) alanc@ocf.Berkeley.edu (Alan Coopersmith) bron@iastate.edu (Bronwyn J S Hoon) c31002wb@jezebel.wustl.edu (William Burris) (Carole Ashmore) clw5@po.CWRU.Edu (Christopher L. Wood) ed@stauff.UUCP (Edward L. Stauff) elf@halcyon.com (Elf Sternberg) gwh0621@Msu.oscs.montana.edu (The Bedroom Commando) hurd@fraser.sfu.ca (Peter L. Hurd) icon@proto.COM (The Iconoclast) japlady@casbah.acns.nwu.edu (Rebecca Radnor) jik@pit-manager.MIT.EDU (Jonathan I. Kamens) klaus@diku.dk (Klaus Ole Kristiansen) kwatsi@athena.mit.edu (Atomic Playboy) loredich@miavx3.mid.muohio.edu (Loredich) markley@grad1.cis.upenn.edu (Jim Markley) masandy@ubvmsb.cc.buffalo.edu mf2x+@andrew.cmu.edu (Michael Raymond Feely) pete@cssc-syd.tansu.com.au (Peter A. Merel) rpeck@jessica.stanford.edu (Raymond Peck) sawyer@hubble..westford.ccur.com (George Sawyer) sesharp@happy.colorado.edu (Steven Sharp) stsou@hpcupt1.cup.hp.com (Sharon Tsou) (The Contrivor) tmcdonal@ringer.cs.utsa.edu (Tom McDonald) travis@ZONKER.gs.com (Travis Lee Winfrey) U32682@UICVM.UIC.EDU (Christopher K. Howard) ================================================================= Appendix 2. The Teachings of Kama Sutra (with some extra goodies) The Love Teachings of Kama Sutra ================================ By Vatasyayana Excerpts from the Kama Sutra. Source: "The Love Teachings of Kama Sutra" ----------------------------------------------------------------- Lying Down Positions: --------------------- Indrani draws up both her knees until they nuzzle the curves of her breasts; her feet find her lover's armpits. Small girls love this posture, but becoming a goddess takes a lot of practice. She cups and lifts her buttocks with her palms, spreads wide her thighs, and digs in her heels besides her hips, while you caress her breasts: this is "Utphallaka" (The Flower in Bloom). Grasping the ankles of the round hipped woman, whose buttocks are like two ripe gourds, raise her beautiful thighs and spread the thigh-joints widely. Full of desire, saying sweet words, approach her with your body stiff as a pole and drive straight forward to pierce her lotus and join your limbs: experts call it "Madandhvaja" (The Flag of Cupid). Catch hold of her two feet, raising them till they press upon her breasts and her legs form a rough circle. Clasp her neck and make love to her: this is "Ratisundara" (Aphrodite's Delight). Lift the lady's feet until her soles lie perfectly parallel, one to each side of her slender throat, cup her breasts and enjoy her: this technique is "Uthkanta" (Throat-high). Your lovely wife, lying on the bed, grasps her own fgs in her heels besides her hips, while you caress her breasts: this is "Utphallaka" (The Flower in Bloom). Grasping the ankles of the round hipped woman, whose buttocks are like two ripe gourds, raise her beautiful thighs and spread the thigh-joints widely. Full of desire, saying sweet words, approach her with your body stiff as a pole and drive straight forward to pierce her lotus and join your limbs: experts call it "Madandhvaja" (The Flag of Cupid). Catch hold of her two feet, raising them till they press upon her breasts and her legs form a rough circle. Clasp her neck and make love to her: this is "Ratisundara" (Aphrodite's Delight). Lift the lady's feet until her soles lie perfectly parallel, one to each side of her slender throat, cup her breasts and enjoy her: this technique is "Uthkanta" (Throat-high). Your lovely wife, lying on the bed, grasps her own feet and draws them up until they reach her hair; you catch her breasts and make love: this is "Vyomapada" (Sky-foot). The round-thighed woman on the bed grasps her ankles and raises high her lotus feet; you strike her to the root, kissing and slapping open-palmed between her breasts: this is "Markata" (The Monkey). She lies flat on her back, you sit between her parted knees, raise them, hook her feet over your thighs, catch hold of her breasts, and enjoy her: this is "Manmathpriya" (Dear to Cupid). Lying-down Positions - Samputa Group: ------------------------------------- If your penis is too small for a woman, the "Samputa" group of postures should be used: "Samputa" (the Jewel Case), "Pidita" (the Squeeze), "Veshtita (the Entwined) and "Vadavaka" (the Mare's Trick). In Samputa your legs lie along hers caressing their whole length from toes to thighs. Your lover may be below you, or you may both lie on your sides, in which case she should always be on your left. In Pidita the lovers' thighs are interlaced and squeeze each other in rhythm. In Veshtita she crosses her thighs or rolls each one inward, thus greatly strengthening her yoni's grip. When, like a mare cruelly gripping a stallion, your lover traps and milks your penis with her vagina, it is "Vadavaka" (the Mare's Trick), which can only be perfected with long practice. When she uses it, a woman should cease to kiss her lover and simply hold the lock. Courtesans are adept at Vadavaka, and it's a speciality with ladies from Andhra(*). *The South-Eastern state of India. When lovers, with legs stretched rigid and feet caressing feet, make love according to their hearts' desire, "tantra" scholars call it "Sampada" (Equal Feet) and agree it is a way to ecstasy. Stiff as a pole in the bed's centre, she lies making love, cooing and warbling like a woodpigeon, the jewel of her clitoris well-polished: this is Mausala" (the Pestle). When she lies on her back with her two thighs pressed tightly together and you make love to her, keeping your thighs outside hers, it is "Gramya" (the Rustic). If, encircling and trapping her thighs with yours, you grip so hard that she cries out in pain, it is "Ratipasha" (Love's Noose), a device most charming to the ladies. Her limbs, entwined in yours like tendrils of fragrant jasmine creeper, draw taut and slowly relax in the gentle rhythm of linga and yoni: this is "Lataveshta" (the Clinging Creeper). She draws her limbs together, clasping her knees tightly to her breasts, her yoni, like an opening bud, offered up for pleasure: this is known as "Mukula" (the Bud). When she draws up her knees and you clamp yours about her raised thighs, trapping them in a tight knot while riding saddle upon her buttocks and kissing her, it is "Shankha" (the Couch). Oral Pleasures -- Fellatio Techniques: -------------------------------------- When your lover catches your penis in her hand and, shaping her lips to an 'O', lays them lightly to its tip, moving her head in tiny circles, this first step is called "Nimitta" (Touching). Next, grasping its head in her hand, she clamps her lips tightly about the shaft, first on one side then the other, taking great care that her teeth don't hurt you: this is "Parshvatoddashta" (Biting at the Sides). Now she takes the head of your penis gently between her lips, by turns pressing, kissing it tenderly and pulling at its soft skin: this is "Bahiha-samdansha" (the Outer Pincers). If next she allows the head to slide completely into her mouth and presses the shaft firmly between her lips, holding a moment before pulling away, it is "Antaha-samdansha" (the Inner Pincers). When, taking your penis in her hand and making her lips very round, she presses fierce kisses along its whole length, sucking as she would at your lower lip, it is called "Chumbitaka" (Kissing). If, while kissing, she lets her tongue flick all over your penis and then, pointing it, strikes repeatedly at the sensitive glans-tip, it becomes "Parimrshtaka" (Striking at the Tip). And now, fired by passion, she takes your penis deep into her mouth, pulling upon it and sucking as vigorously as though she were stripping clean a mango-stone: this is "Amrachushita" (Sucking a Mango). When she senses that your orgasm is imminent she swallows up the whole penis, sucking and working upon it with lips and tongue until you spend: this is "Sangara" (Swallowed Whole). Oral Pleasures -- Cunnilingus Techniques: ----------------------------------------- With delicate fingertips, pinch the arched lips of her house of love very very slowly together, and kiss them as though you kissed her lower lip: this is "Adhara-sphuritam" (the Quivering Kiss). Now spread, indeed cleave asunder, that archway with your nose and let your tongue gently probe her "yoni" (vagina), with your nose, lips and chin slowly circling: it becomes "Jihva-bhramanaka" (the Circling Tongue). Let your tongue rest for a moment in the archway to the flower-bowed Lord's temple before entering to worship vigorously, causing her seed to flow: this is "Jihva-mardita" (the Tongue Massage). Next, fasten your lips to hers and take deep kisses from this lovely one, your beloved, nibbling at her and sucking hard at her clitoris: this is called "Chushita" (Sucked). Cup, lift her young buttocks, let your tongue-tip probe her navel, slither down to rotate skilfully in the archway of the love-god's dwelling and lap her love-water: this is "Uchchushita" (Sucked Up). Stirring the root of her thighs, which her own hands are gripping and holding widely apart, your fluted tongue drinks at her sacred spring: this is "Kshobhaka" (Stirring). Place your darling on a couch, set her feet to your shoulders, clasp her waist, suck hard and let your tongue stir her overflowing love-temple: this is called "Bahuchushita" (Sucked Hard). If the pair of you lie side by side, facing opposite ways, and kiss each other's secret parts using the fifteen techniques described above, it is known as "Kakila" (the Crow). Role Reversal: -------------- During lovemaking, ten types of blows may be struck with the penis, but of these only "Upasripta" (Natural), which is instinctive even to untutored cowherds, results in full clitoral stimulation. It is a gentle forward stroke which may be varied for depth and speed, allowing a subtlety, rhythm and spontaneity which the other nine each lack to some degree. If you grasp your penis and move it in circles inside her yoni, it is "Madhavana" (Churning). When you strike sharply down into the yoni, it is "Hula" (the Double-edged Knife). If, when her hips are raised by a pillow, you strike a rising blow, it is "Avamardana" (Rubbing). If you hold your penis pressed breathlessly to her womb it is "Piditaka" (Pressing). If you withdraw completely and then strike her violently to the womb, it is "Nirghata" (the Buffet). Continuous pressure on one side of her yoni is "Varahaghata" (the Boar's Blow). If you thrust wildly in every direction, like a bull tossing its horns, it is "Vrishaghata" (the Bull's Blow). Quivering in her yoni is "Chatakavilasa" (Sparrow Sport), which usually heralds orgasm. The involuntary shuddering of orgasm is called "Samputa" (the Jewel Case). But no two women make love quite the same way, so orchestrate your rhythms to the moods and colours of each lover's "raga" (emotions). If long lovemaking exhausts you before your lover has reached her orgasm, you should allow her to roll you over your back and sit astride you, taking initiative. If the posture gives her deep pleasure, or you enjoy its novelty, she may transpose into it as a matter of course, taking great care, however, not to expel the linga from the temple of love. Consider: she climbs upon you, the flowers dropping from her tousled hair, her giggles turning to gasps; every time she bends to kiss your lips her nipples pierce your chest. As her hips begin to churn, her head, flung back, bobs ever faster; she scratches, pummels you with small fists, fastens her teeth in your neck, doing unto you what you've often done unto her. When she takes the man's role, your lady has the choice of three famous lovemaking techniques: "Samdamsha (the Tongs), "Bhramara" (the Bee) and "Prenkholita" (the Swing). If she uses the Mare's Trick, gripping your penis with her yoni's vice, squeezing and stroking it, holding it inside her for a hundred heart-beats, it is known as "Samdamsha" (the Tongs). If, drawing up her feet, she revolves her hips so that your penis circles deep within her yoni, you arching your body to help her, it is "Bhramara" (the Bee). If she now swings her hips in wide circles and makes figures-of-eight, swaying upon your body as though she were riding on a seesaw, it is "Prenkholita" (the Swing). When her passion has ebbed, she should rest, bending forward to lay her forehead upon yours without disturbing your yoked bodies: it won't be long before desire stirs again. Catching your penis, the lady with dark eyes like upturned lotus petals guides it into her yoni, clings to you and shakes her buttocks: this is "Charunarikshita" (Lovely Lady in Control). Enthroned on your penis, she places both hands on the bed and makes love, while you press your two hands to her thudding heart: this is "Lilasana" (Seat of Sport). She sits upright upon you, her head thrown back like a rearing mare, bringing her feet together on the bed to one side of your body: this is "Hansabandha" (the Swan). The young woman has one foot on your heart and the other on the bed. Bold, saucy women adore this posture, which is known to the world as "Upavitika" (the Sacred thread). If, with one of her feet clasped in your hand and the second placed upon your shoulder, your young lady enjoys you, it is "Viparitaka" (Reversed). If your lover, seated above you with feet lotus-crossed and her body held erect and still makes love to you, it is known as "Yugmapada" (the Foot Yoke). If she strides you, facing your feet, brings both her feet up to your thighs, and works her hips frantically, it is known as "Hansa-lila" (Swan Sport). Your lover places one foot on your ankle, lodges her other foot just above your knee, and rides you, swinging and rotating her hips: this is "Garuda" (Garuda). If you lie flat on your back with legs stretched out and your lover sits astride you, facing away and grasping your feet, it is called "Virsha" (the Bull). Clasping each other's hands, you lie sprawled like two starfish making love, her breasts stabbing your chest, her thighs stretched out along yours: this is "Devabandha" (the Coitus of the Gods). Lying upon you, your beloved moves round like a wheel, pressing hands one after the other on the bed, kissing your body as she circles: experts call this "Chakrabandha" (the Wheel). If, by means of some contraption, your lover suspends herself above you, ********** places your linga in her yoni ********** and pulleys herself up and down upon it, ********** it is "Utkalita" (the Orissan).** ********** ** I must admit that this is kind of far fetched. However, there is an illustration on the next page depicting this position and showing two women pulling the woman up. *** HOWEVER IF YOU DO GET A CHANCE, TRY IT OUT. IT'S ONE OF A KIND OF AN EXPERIENCE. WARNING I: DON'T TRY ANY OF THESE METHODS DESCRIBED BELOW. WARNING II: IF YOU ARE GOING TO TRY ANY ONE OF THE METHODS DESCRIBED BELOW, YOU AND YOU ALONE ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR IT. ----------------------------------------------------------------- To Enslave a Lover: ------------------- Anoint your penis, before lovemaking, with honey into which you have powered black pepper, long pepper and "datura" (the green thorn apple) - it will utterly devastate your lady. Leaves caught as they fall from trees and powdered with peacock-bone and fragments of a corpse's winding-sheet will, when dusted lightly on the penis, bewitch any woman living. If you crush milky chunks of cactus with sulphur and realgar, dry the mixture seven times, powder it and apply it to your penis, you'll satisfy the most demanding lover. And if, to these powerful ingredients, you add a monkey's turd, grind them together and sprinkle the powder on your unsuspecting lover's head, she will be your devoted slave for life. To Increase Potency: -------------------- Honey-sweetened milk in which the testicles of a ram or a goat have been simmered has the effect, when drunk, of making a man as powerful as a bull. Pumkin seeds ground with almonds and sugarcane root, or with cowhage root and strips of bamboo, and stirred into honeyed milk, have the same arousing effect. The sages say that wheat-flour cakes baked with honey and sugar and sprinkled with the powdered seeds of pumpkin and cowhage give one strength for a thousand women. The yolk of a single sparrow's egg stirred into rice pudding that has been thickened with cream, wild-honey and "ghee" (clarified butter) has the same invigorating effect. Enlarging the Penis or "Yoni" (Vagina): --------------------------------------- First rub your penis with wasp stings and massage it with sweet oil. When it swells, let it dangle for ten nights through a hole in your bed, going to sleep each night on your stomach. After this period use a cool ointment to remove the pain and swelling. By this method men ... of insatiable sexual appetite, manage to keep their penises enlarged throughout their lives. By applying an ointment made from crushed barleria leaves to her "yoni", the elephant(HASTHINI or large) woman can spend at least one night discovering the delights of being a doe ("small" woman). Likewise the doe can use honey mixed with powdered roots of lotus, madder, "sal" (tree of aromatic gum), the blue lotus and the mongoose plant to accommodate a stallion for one night. To Cope With Impotence: ----------------------- A man who climaxes too swiftly should arouse his lady by caressing her clitoris with his fingers and flooding the well of her yoni before he enters her. If, during lovemaking, the erection cannot be sustained because the man is old, or simply exhausted he should use the delicate oral techniques given in an earlier chapter. The man who is utterly unable to achieve an erection should pleasure his wife/lover with a phallus crafted from materials like gold, silver, copper, iron (!!), ivory or horn. The artificial phallus should be shaped to your natural proportions. It will be more arousing for the lady if the outside is studded with a profusion of large, smooth nodules. =END OF FAQ FILE================================================= -- **************************************************************************** * dave@cnd.mcgill.ca * My intentions are true * * David Johnson * Won't you take me with you * * To subscribe to the * And baby you can sleep while * * Melissa Etheridge mailing list: * I drive. * * Etheridge-request@cnd.mcgill.ca * - Melissa Etheridge * **************************************************************************** with a phallus crafted from materials like gold, silver, copper, iron (!!), ivory or horn. The artificial phallus should be shaped to your natural proportions. It will be more arousing for the lady if the outside is studded with a profusion of large, smooth nodules. =END OF FAQ FILE================================================= -- **************************************************************************** * dave@cnd.mcgill.ca * My intentions are true * * David Johnson * Won't you take me with you * * To subscribe to the * And baby you can sleep while * * Melissa Etheridge mailing list: * I drive. * * Etheridge-request@cnd.mcgill.ca * - Melissa Etheridge * ****************************************************************************